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Delay tactics
It is normal for a young guy to get overly excited and come too soon, a lot of men go through that stage.
You have to more or less train him to last longer and longer each time you have sex to eventually delay his orgasms. This can be achieved by bringing him to the edge, the point where he can still hold back and repeating the process, gradually increasing his staying power.
If this needs additional help you can buy delay creams which work by desensitising very slightly so that it takes him longer to reach orgasm.
But the most important thing is to have patience, men and women all have issues with sex at different times in their lives and the key to overcoming them is communication and understanding.
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Wow that's terrible.
I'm sorry, hun, because that must be really frustrating for you! I know I don't have that problem, because my husband and I can go for about two hours with him never leaving my core! I may not be of much help to you, but I can tell you what we do. Usually, we do a bit of fingering and such at the start to get him hard and me soaking wet, but I'm assuming you know what to do in that department, right? Then, he spreads my legs wide out and bends down to lap up some of my drippings before positioning himself at my entrance. He eases in, going really slow (about an inch at a time) so that he can really feel me stretch and grow to accommodate his wide girth. We like to let entry take about 5 minutes. Then, he slides all the way out and pounds back in for a bit, you know, typical sex. Usually after we go for about 30 minutes (we like it long and hard), he tips up my bum so he can get in there really good. This usually gets us to our first orgasm, and he explodes in me. Then we like to recover for about ten minutes, but I hate for him to exit me, so we leave him in and we put fingers up into my vagina while talking about our lives. We usually go on and make love another few times in a night, with one being a rear entry style, and he pounds me home down deep every day.
Good luck with your man! Encourage him not to seek release so soon and just pound into you.
Janine
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How to deal with quick ejaculation
Gals, it's normal for men to come in two minutes. You're heading off down the wrong path looking for orgasm during sex, what you need is for him to make you come with oral sex or a hand job before he enters you. that way you;re already satisfied and you can enjoy him in you a lot more if you don;t have the need for an orgasm...even if that is only for two minutes.You can see how few of us ladies come through intercourse here http://www.vulvavelvet.org and you can learn how to get him to satisfy you before he enters you here http://www.women-come-first.com/orgasms3.html
Love
Frederika
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^_^ i know what to do about that.
tell him to think about something irrelevant, like fried fish or something and then can go back.
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"he cums too quickly!!
he needs to practice, by any time he feels as though he is going to cum he withdraws and relaxes for a min or two, until he gets to the point were he doesn't have to withdraw he can stay in the vagina and takes his mind away from cumming it all about mind control.
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I have this same problem
I have this same problem, unfortunately, and all of the suggestions in this forum sound good. BUT
My boyfriend is cicumsized and he lasts 5 minutes or more, if I'm lucky. I never reach orgasm and it's really making me angry, he doesn't even put any effort into it.
What's worse, he never does masterbate, I've never known him to do it in the last 8 years, unless I ask him to while we're having sex, anyways. In any case, I'm completely lost as to what to do here. I'm a young mother, but I still have sex, and I would like to have actual sex like we used to, because 5 minutes and quickies are really REALLY annoying.
any OTHER suggestions perhaps? for me? if so, thanks a lot in advance 
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He cums too quickly!!!"
tell your boyfriend to do a lot of sex talking while doing it, (dirty talk ), and many different positions , it breaks the concentration of wanting to cum or he hold his balls really tight and that will make him last longer, i had the same problem and taught myself different tricks to last longer.
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Right.
about the talking thing, always works, and works even better when you let him pull your hair softly.
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To quick
Are you wearing condoms, this helps
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Before**
give him a hand job or a ... *
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Before!
Ok,I found that if you give him a hand job or a ... until he cums before you have sex he lasts alot longer in bed.If it's really bad make him cum a couple times before letting him go inside you. Also think about letting him finger you or give you oral a bit before you guys start having sex , that way you are already stimulated. Good luck!!
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One trick is for him to jack off beforehand
a few minutes before you have sex.
I have also noticed that circumcised guys last longer. He may want to think about getting cut.
Good Luck
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He needs to masterbate more
He needs to masterbate more so he can gain contol when he cums. Dont hold him back, give him space to do this and let him be free to choose what he likes to get him off.
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This is what you can try...
...to get your lover to last longer in your coitus.
Get him to keep gazing into your eyes as he is coupled-up with you - the missionary position. Then keep on whispering to him that he should take deep breath to channel his 'QI' down to his bowels.
If he should show sign of orgasm-approach, withdraw his penis from your vagina, and press your thumb-tip at the point on the underside of his penis where his foreskin leads up to the
'one-eye'.
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He only lasts for 15minutes
I enjoy having sex and I think it brings people closer together but for me that is not the case. He doesn't try to please me and every position is mostly the same one me on bottom or rarely he gets it from the back. I mostly ask to be on top so I can hurry up and get mine because he gets his and then goes to sleep. Our sex is off wack he likes to wait late a night around 11pm when I like to do it in the afternoon. There is no compromise when he wants to do it I always give it to him when he wants but then when I want some he acts like he doesnt want to give me any so i dont get none until he is ready. He loves oral but never wants to please me and doesnt have to be oral with me. I wouldnt mind giving him oral if he pleased me more in the bedroom. I tried to talk to him about it but it just doesn't work and he just acts non chalant. When we first met he took his time kissing and caressing and now he just rushes sex. What do I do???
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Hey
Ok,
before you Boyfriend cums..he has to have an break.....
then he can have oralsex..he has to stimulate
your clitoris and the when you have an orgasm,
he can go on....and penetrate again...
so you have an orgasm and he...
greetings eve
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It want last for long
You might need to try other things. (like get him high or drunk) I had that same problem with my boyfriend at first (but that was because he was a virgin at 19 he was still a virgin)to but now he is my husband. 4-play sometimes help.
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I understand
hi there I too had this problem on some occasions in my early marriage as i was a virgin at 24 and i my penis was not used to the sensation of the vagina....it is fantastic....so be patient with your man and let him get you fully aroused with a massage, plenty of kissing and i mean all over and then he can make u come by performing on your flower of venus and then make you come again when he enters you....it all takes practice...i just regret now that i didnt give more women the satisfaction...but be patient...love him...he will get used to the feeling....
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Very funny book that might help
click on
http://dfcoates.tripod.com/doyouwantgreatsex/index-.html
try it together and increase your pleasure and will slow him down
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I hear you!
Alright girl, I totally had the same problem with my man. He was totally embarassed and wouldn't even talk about it, and I was getting really frustrated. I told him that I really like it when he gives me oral sex (which i do) and asked him to give it to me more. I told him that I never really liked it until he did it to me. I also tried really hard to not seem mad or dissappointed when he would cum early, just tell him I love him. After a little practice, and some encouragement, it has paid off. Although he still doesn't last a long time every time, I get treated quite often with a long lovemaking session.
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