My boyfriend's penis

Help! My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and he is still self conscious about the size of his penis. We have both been with a number of other people, so he's constantly trying to get me to compare sizes with the other men I've been with him. Whenever I try to give him a compliment, he doesn't believe me. When he's inside of me I sometimes tell him he feels really big, and that makes him feel good, but I wish I could do more than that. I love everything about his penis and wouldn't change anything, but he wants me to think it is too big, while I just think it is perfect. Why can't he be happy with that?

His size

it is not the size that count's, it is how you use it.

M

His point of view

i will admit that most guys on some occation worry about the size of their penis compared to others, i know ive done it. the problem is that due to the angle at which we view our own penis it looks smaller than it actualy is. he has probably seen others guys, maybe in the changing room at the gym or pool, seeing his peers like this will make their penises look bigger than he sees his own which will naturaly cause anxiaty for him but its just the angle at which he views it.

now he may have also seen men with enormose penises in porn. i will start of by saying a ot of this is probably faked, if a guys penis is too big then he cannot sustain an errection due to the amount of blood it takes causing them to pass out. if hes realy finding it a problem then you can always direct him to a durex study which show that about 80% of men have a penis between 5 and 7 inches in length. also it may be worth telling him that most womens vaginas cant accomodate much more than 8 or 9 inches in length.

finaly the fact that he wants to cause you pain during sex most lkly stems from virgin fantasys. its sad but true that most men will fantasise at some point about sleeping with virgins, ill admit to it. i also beleive its true that most girls feel pain when loosing their virginity and i beleive that this is most likly where his want to hurt you during sex comes from, he cant sleep with you as a virgin but he wants to experiance something close to that.

the only thing you can realy do for him is to prove to him that his penis is perfectly adequate in size. other than that the rest is fantasy which he may well never expect to actualy happen, but thats no reason for him not to fantasise about it.

Beware

I'm a man. I know this issue and it's sad (mostly for your BF, because he's hurting... probably really tormented) All men struggle at least a little with fear of inadequacy.

With what little you describe, I can guarantee you, your BF is absolutley obsessed with size, not just his. He knows where he stands. He's seen much larger men, both in person and in pictures and video (lots of porn I'd guess). He's heard about women with very large lovers (maybe a friend of yours) and made himself miserable fantasizing about how turned on she must be by him.

His queries about your previous lovers is part of this, and a bad sign. He needs help. Therapy.

Odds are he's deeply troubled by his obsession with penises and has doubts about his heterosexuality, no matter how much sex you two have.

He may have been abused in the past.

Wanting his penis to be too big for you and painful, is a type of S&M and/or rape fantasy. Something gave him a bad self image.

Try to get him to talk about it with a therapist.

Cost

That's the cost of having multiple partners: comparison woes.

Gurl

you haven't seen small I have the same problem but he is not self conscious about what he has but you should just keep on what you are doing and try to get him an inlarger toy for christmasLOL