Anal sex - almost, but now what??
I must again express my gratitude to all the great ladies who have given me advice on how to convince my man to try anal intercourse. Their very kind words have given me the courage to talk freely about this deep desire for the first time in my 38 years, and to be a much bolder lover.
The problem now is that I came so close to having his member in my bum, but then failed. Oh, it was all very exciting: but I didn't end up with exactly what I had wanted, and I seem to be back to square one. Please let me recount what happened, and invite forum members to share their reactions.
Until my divorce is done, my boyfriend and I are being careful. We manage to see each other 1-3 times a week at his flat, usually in the afternoon while my husband's at the office and my 2 children still out.
Yesterday, in a very daring state of mind, I packed my vibrator along with me. Once there I excused myself to go to the toilet, and on the way back simply took the vibrator out of my handbag. In my newfound boldness, which I must credit to the community I've found on soFeminine, I told my man I was going to put on a show. He lifted his head a little higher, watching attentively. I lay on my back and raised my legs. I turned the vibrator on and set the speed. I started cautiously, first rubbing my vagina with a little lubricant, which I usually need, then sliding the vibrator in there while stroking my clitoris. Silently he was smiling. This is the first time someone's watched me masturbate, and I had no idea what a thrill it would be. I kept watching his beautiful blue eyes get wider, and in a short time I brought myself to orgasm.
Then I took the vibrator out of my vagina. Raising my legs further so my bum was almost curving upward, I placed the tip on my anus and pressed gently. Though I've been doing this for many years, I still have to go very slowly or it hurts a lot. I would recommend the same to anyone who wants to try what I'm describing. I pushed my treasured toy into my bum a little way, then took it out, then in again, then out. I wasn't seeing straight, so it was hard to watch my man, but I did notice he was getting erect. It was maybe half an hour after we'd made love: I've never seen a man bounce back so quickly before. I really thought the greatest wish of my life was about to be fulfilled. The thought made me so excited that I pushed the vibrator deep into my rear, and I exploded.
When I started to settle, he was still lying back, head and chest raised, and his ... was as hard as I've ever seen it. With the vibrator still deep in my behind, I scrambled to get myself ready, turning onto my front for him to mount me.
Then I made my mistake: I pushed the vibrator in once more, just to feel another convulsion before letting his prick rocket me up to heaven. And he ejaculated powerfully, a fountain gushing all the way to his chest. I never knew a man could come without being touched. Between this sight and the vibrator in my most sensitive place, I had the biggest orgasm of my life.
I don't know if I was unconscious after that, or if I was, for how long, but when alertness returned I felt the deepest disappointment. He was lying completely flat -- and completely flaccid! I'd missed my first real chance to have anal sex.
We were out of time. I was very sad since it was our last meeting before the week he has to be away for work. I asked him to tell me he loved what he saw. He said he did. I asked him to promise to ... me way up my asshole with his wonderful ... next time we see each other -- I even used the American word, 'asshole', reaching deep into the crudest, sexiest realms of the English language.
He hesitated. He said a vibrator was one thing but his member quite another, as it was bigger and would hurt me. I held up the vibrator to show him how large it was. That was another mistake. For the first time in our relationship, he got angry with me. He felt I was questioning his manhood by playing down the size of his penis. I told him I loved his huge ... and would love nothing more than for him to put it in my arse. He repeated his old mantra, that he could never do that because it would hurt me.
I'm at my wit's end. He's now gone for a week, and I'm chagrined he had to leave right after our first fight. I wish I could look forward to anal sex upon his return. What must I do to convince him to give it a go? Was he put off by watching me masturbate? I still can't believe he came when we were on the brink of doing it. Might he suffer from premature ejaculation?
Did I perhaps make him think I think he's gay by asking him to perform anal intercourse? If this is the case, how do I let him know that, as I'm gratefully learning myself here on soFem, anal sex is not just for homosexuals and is enjoyed by many women?
(Thanks for the earlier suggestion, Gemmy, but I don't think I should send him the link to this one.)
I'm afraid I've really mucked things up. Please, please, my dear friends whom I've met on this forum, I humbly request your words of wisdom!
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