Need help..........

simple facts, been with my guy 3 years

we have a 5 month old

he booked our wedding for 10 months time.......................... ...now the tricky part.......................


he went round to his sister in laws to celebrate and tell his neice we were taking her with us to mexico, said he's be home at 11pm

i woke at 2am, with a gut instinct, i put our baby in the buggy and rushed round, i found......................... ..... the sister in law naked and him topless pulling up his jeans!!!!


im gutted, what do i do, do i break up my family and become a single mum? none of my family like him as he has beat me in the past (but only if i have slapped him)

or do i forgive and spend the rest of my life wondering what he's up to when he's not with me. and his sister in law only lives around the corner.

what would you do, part of me wants to leave, part of me wants to stay.

Need help

I would leave this guy well alone.

You can manage to bring up your child on your own perfectly well as you sound a very capable woman.

You don't need him to ruin your life.

Get on with yours and be happy.

Love

Fee

Omg!

How awful for you!

If it was me in your position i would leave him as he will just think that he can keep doing this and get away with it! You will always worry when he goes round there too.

As for splitting up the family and becoming a single mum, well i was alone with my son for a year and i coped well. You will be fine!

At the end of the day its up to you if you can forgive him, but could you 100% trust him again??

Good luck x

Get rid!

what a complete **************!!!!!!
you have a baby together, booked a wedding and he does this! pfft girl id have had his ass out the door from the second i caught him! how did you and them two react when you caught them?

And the rest

my message cut off there!!!

yes he sat down and said "so f***** what" and i'd be round smashing up the house!!! (when he's drunk he's a nasty verbal abusive man)

he refused to come home, eventually he did, and spend the whole next day drinking and staying in the room, wouldnt even look or talk to me, and refused to work with his son

i told him no matter what he still had a duty to be a father and not neglect his son because he was ashmed, it's not his sons fault.

Hey again

not only is he a a**hole hes violent aggressive and spends his time getting drunk, poor you and ur son, i know its not easy but i deffo would get rid, he has no respect for you. i was with a lad some yrs ago he would hit me, rape me, and i was terrified of leaving him incase he hurt me or my family, i eventually did and we had to get the police on him numerous times i had an injunction put on him and ive never looked back. right now you need to think about your son, him seeing his dad act like this and neglect him is going to affect him when he's older, have you decided what your gonna do yet?
xx

My reply

she just sat there naked, almost relaxed, and he was that drunk he buckled up his belt and said nothing was going on, i was outside having a smoke and i could hear them talking, she kept sayig sorry and was crying, and he sat down, started saying

Hi

If i were you i would have kicked him out the first time he raised his hand.....
I was single mum for 3 years,and i really had demn hard time. Now im happily married. And i really can say all that hard time was all worth it, for what i have now. Never thought i could be so happy. It's not end of the world to be a single mother....
I absolutley agree with these two sayings: 1. If man hits you once, he will do it agine ( the same about cheating) it can happen after week, yer or 10year but it will happen. 2. Everything what happens, happens for the best......I wish you all the best, and hope you'll make a right decision for you and your baby