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MY PARTNER OF 7 YEARS HAS ASKED ME TO MARRY HIM, IM OVER THE MOON BUT CANT SEE IT BEING POSSIBLE... 1ST OF ALL HIS PARENTS ARE SEPARATED AND HATE EACH OTHER AND SO DOES THE FAMILIES, 2ND OF ALL HE HAS HAD A BIG FALLING OUT WITH MY PARENTS SO THERE NOT SPEAKING TO EACH OTHER, 3RD OF ALL MY BROTHER AND MY PARENTS DONT GET ON AND HAVENT SEEN EACH OTHER FOR 10 YEARS SO THEY CANT BE IN THE SAME ROOM! HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO ENJOY MY DAY WITH ALL THIS GOING ON? HELP....

Nightmare

Please do not stress, there are a lot of people in the same situation, I am planning 2 weddings just now with the same problems.
The thing to remember is that you will always offend at least one person during the wedding planning process, it is a shame that you have not even started planning and you are already thinking of this, the planning of your wedding should be a magical experience, not one that makes you ill.
If you are going to get married at home and not abroad (this is something you should consider)you will have to invite all the people listed in your message, some will not come due to others invited, the ones that do come can be seated in a way that they are not to close to the ones they do not get on with.
You have to make them understand that this is your day and if they can't put their silly quarrels behind them and support you for 24 hours, they will be the ones who regret it for the rest of their lives.
Kerry Spence

Hi

you know what thats there problem not yours, why should you fling away a lifetime of happyness for people who are not willing to get on screw them if you love your partner then go for it let everyone know if they have issiue then let them sort it out or surely they could put them aside for one day. Or you could have a quite wedding with friends and people who do get on

Elope!

Getting married is for you two, not the rest of the peanut gallery (especially if they can't behave themselves any better than small children!).

Go away and get married in Mexico or Fiji or South Africa (or even at the local marriage office) or wherever and enjoy it without worrying about everyone else.

Good Luck!

Its your day!!

1st of all it is not about everyone else apart from the two of u! Why not give them an ultimatium eg If they dont behave they wont be coming or why dont you two just get married on your own with one or two people with you and have a party after with everyone that way its just u 2 and nothing can ruin it?