17 (nearly 18) and pregnant any help/advise neaded urgently

Hello everyone....
I'm not sure what else to do to be honest... i found out on Saturday (3days ago) that i am pregnant...this was completely unplanned and i was on the pill and never forgot it but somehow... it failed and now im expecting....

I have told my mum (but not my dad) and obviously my boyfriend knows but no one else...today i had to go to the clinic to have a scan to determine exactly how far along i am and to "discuss" my next step-meaning either to abort or to continue on with the pregnancy.

Turns out im 6weeks pregnant and everything (as far as they can tell) is fine.. ( i know its still early days) i have an abortion booked for the 21st of this month (September) but very much doubt i will go through with it as i cannot imagine doing it...

I feel so scared and alone (even though im not) i really don't know what to do.. i mean im in college and had all these plans to travel and go to university... i dont drink or smoke or go out into town so i wont be missing out on the social side of things its just realising what keeping my baby involves.

Ever since i was a little girl i have said i want to be a mummy one day but never ever imagined it this soon... i mean what happens as regards to living accommodation...i can't stay at home.. as much as i want to it just wont work my mum has 5children.. 4 of which including me still live at home....

I really think abortion for me wont work but as i say im scared about "what next"????
I mean is it as hard as they say it is... do people suffer that bad?

Im just curious thats all... i have two weeks (less than) to make my final decision.

Any help would be much appreciated... Thank you for taking the time to read this..

xxxxx

Hey...

Im 21 and my little girl is 14weeks old... she wasnt planned but we wernt exactly carefull so we sort of were expecting it but we have our own house and have been togther a while so if i got pregnant then it wasnt such a problem and ive always wanted a baby in early 20's. Im not for abortions myself but they are there for reasons and fair enough to people who do have them.

You've probably heard this before but it is hard work! but you grin and bare it because its a little living thing thats your responsability... i dont regret anything about what i have bought into this world as she means the world to me, but if i could of lived like it was a couple of weeks after she was born before i decided to have kids then i think i would of waited untill i was mid/late 20's.

Its hard going waking every 2 hours for feeding, by the time they have fed and gone back to sleep ur up again doing the same thing. Me and my partner are like urself we arnt ones for clubbing etc but we had freedom to come home, eat tea, watch tv etc now its change baby, feed baby, play with baby, calm baby from crying, baby asleep, change baby, feed baby, play with baby, calm baby etc etc lol... the first couple of weeks i found it hard to even make myself dinner, my partner used to make me a sandwich before he went to work so i could just grab it and eat if i had a spare 5 mins.

It does get easier... she is now 14weeks and i would say it gets easier at about 7 - 8 weeks when you've got yourself into a routine but babies can change there routines around alot espically when they are unwell. Even now i have days when i dont no whats wrong with her and it dirves me mad not knowing but you are the carer of that baby and u need to look after it so you just get on with it.

If i got pregnant now i wouldnt want to keep it but i dont think i could put myself through an abortion for my own reasons but all i can say is really honestly think about what you want out of life and just think of it as a contraceptive morning after pill if you do decide to go through with it.

I wouldnt change what i have now with my little girl but thats because i have her here in reality and she is my responsability and i wouldnt see her come to any harm.

Sorry for my babble, i doubt this has helped but if u want to chat more about it message me

x

Thank you

I just want to take the time to say thank you to you for your reply... it has really honestly helped...
i still haven't decided whether to have the abortion or to continue with the pregnancy
My parents are pushing me into having an abortion because that's what THEY want me to do and what THEY see "fit" and "appropriate" for me. I think its so unfair because at the end of the day this is my decision.. im the one that has to deal with whatever i choose to do.. im the one that has to have the abortion or the one that is caring for that baby 24/7 not them.

Its so hard because i can't just think about it... i have to think about it's quality of life... i know i'll just become one of the statistics of "teenage mums" that "just don't care" but i really do care.. i care for this thing thats living inside of me and in a way i wish i didn't because then the decision would be so easy.

I know you learn adjust to your new life, you have new priorities and everything is about that baby not you anymore.

Money worries me i mean at the mo i have enough for me do you know what i mean i don't have any one to look after except me so money has never been an issue till now... i work and my boss has told me he will help me out... like give me more hours and all that which is soo helpful to know.. but we still have to find somewhere to live then theres rent and bills and baby stuff food i mean everything... it can be done i know that and i know it will be hard and nothings going to get handed to me on a plate but in a way i kind of want this baby. It may sound silly and pathetic and you might laugh at me but im already like protective of it... its only been there 7weeks and i only found out a week ago but i go around avoiding knocking my stomach and i even sometimes without knowing it sit down i stroke my tummy.... but i dont know im doing it... is that weird????

sorry i have blabbed on... again lol

x

heh i know what u mean, even if someone walked passed me i would be so carefull they wouldnt walk into me because at so many weeks pregnant its not visable to anyone else unless u go round with "i am pregnant" on ur t-shirt lol!

Take your time to think about what YOU want, not what anyone else tells u.. im sure ur parents are thinking whats best for u as they've been through what its like having a baby etc and im sure they just want u to live ur life before u make any commitments to a baby!... I think i said in my other message that ive always wanted kids, im not a carier minded person atall, i just had my admin job and i just knew i would settle and have kids which i have done a little early then expected but since having the reality of a baby espically the first month or so we just though "omg what have we done" but u just get on with it as the baby needs u and u manage to cope some days are great and other days im pulling my hair out with stress.

All this pregnancy stuff is just so exciting and it worries u to death if u get a twinge or if u've eaten something u shouldnt have, then when u have the baby the worrying still continues lol and im sure it will untill forever.

All i would suggest is do decide sooner rather then later because the longer it goes on the more attached you get to ur bump and more protective you get over it. Im sure you'll come to the right decision for u and im sure either way ur parents will be there for u to help u.

Send me a PM as i dont really come over to this board

Hope ur well

Lucy xx

don't abort your little one because you got a chance to live and the baby should 2

i was 17 when i got prego and 17 when i had her.i am now 18 and she is 8 months old and i have ANOTHER on the way i am 8 weeks prego and i'm keeping it.yea this pregnancy caught me off gaurd but i don't believe in abortion.it's hard being a mom no matter what age.but u will get through it.