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Help i need advice!!

Hi i'm neally 18 and just found out im pregnant!
My boyfriend says he will stick with me whatever but is telling me to have an abortion.
I have just recently got a job i worked really hard to get but wouldnt beable to get maternity leave as i havnt been there long enough.
I have always loved kids and been against killing an unborn child, do i do the sensible thing and get an abortion or go with my gut and keep it??
My boyfriends parents would be VERY dissapointed in him?
Amy
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Go with your gut!!

i am 17 and 5months gone you would be stupid to worry what others say! my parents and my partners parents were not impressed but at the end of the day this is your life your baby and up to you! you should get maternity pay if not there are alternitives so money should not worry you as you will get help!!

WHO CAREZ WAT UR BOYFRIEND WOULD THINK IM NOT TRINA BOG UR BOYFRIEND BUT IF HE WUZ A REAL BOYFRIEND HE WOULD SAY TO KEEP THE BABE AN NOT KILL HIZ FIRST CHILD IN THE WORLD IF I WUZ U I WOULD LISTEN TO MA HEART AN KEEP THE BABE WUZ IM AGANIST THE KILLIN BABE THIN I MEAN U NEVA KNO IF THAT COULD BE UR MOST WONDERFUL CHILD EVA ..

WELL GOOD LUCK ITZ UR DISSION

Hey

i think you should stop and ask YOURSELF do you want this baby , if you want it keep it , your familys and your bfs family might get angry but so what , they cant stay angry at you forever , your carrying a part of their family , i was with my bf 12 days and barely knew him , after a few drinks and a split condom i fell preg and paniced about what my family would say , but i told em , they were angry but got used to it , my bf wanted me to get an abortion but said to me he would stick by me whatever,and he has , if he diddnt then i would know he really never loved me , but he has , i bleive that if its in your body its your desision , if you want to keep it then keep it , if you dont then get an abortion , as for your job , you can always get another one , its hard but ,you can , whatever your desion make you its you who makes it ,

Hope this helps!

Hi Amy! I was 19 when i fell pregnant with my son Charlie. It was such a shock and i had only been with my boyfriend 6 mths!! We talked our options through and decided to keep the baby even tho we were both scared. I wont lie to u....I did think of an abortion but i couldnt do it. My boyfriend would never hav asked me to hav an abortion, although if i decided on it he says he wud hav stood by me wotever i chose to do.I really hope ur boyfriend does the same. Charlie is 3 now and we would never change him for the world. i cant believe i even thought about an abortion now. My boyfriends mum and dad are strict and are good living and we were sooooo worried about how disappointed they would be but now they love their grandchild to bits and are really supportive.Ur boyfriends parents prob will be dissapointed but once the child is born they will love it!!!! If u decide to keep it, everything will work out in the end. You can always find another job after the baby is born, something always comes up I just want to say that sometimes abortion is more damaging to a woman than going thru wit the pregnancy, i hav a friend who had one and she regretted ever since. She still gets upset by it now and that was 5 yrs ago. Its ur choice tho so do wot YOU want to do and dont let anyone else force u into anyting u dont want,

Good luck with everything!! xx

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Hey

How is this going?
I have to say it doesnt sound like an abortion would be the sensible thing to do if youre not happy with it, regretting a decision like this would be the worst thing to live with. Work doesnt even come into the decision there will always be jobs out there but you will never get this chance again. You have to think about you not your boyfriend and his family. Im 21 and have a 9 month old girl and found out i was pregnant and am not even with the father. I was in a very difficult situation and wanted to go back to uni but would never regret my decision to keep her shes amazing! I am now going to uni in October but do get help from my family they were very supportive.

Hope this helps and ultimately its your decision noone elses.

x x x x



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