Is 17 too young for a baby?

Hello, this is my first post so be kind.

Me and my Fiance (Brendan), have been together about two and a half years now and we both feel ready to have a baby. I'm 17, and he's 18.

I'm concerned that I'll get looked on as an unfit mother because I'm quite young.

I just want to know if any of you think I'm too young.

From experience i was pregnant at 17!

Hey hun!
Thought id reply as i know how your feeling, i had been with my now Ex over 2 years when i fell pregnant, id wanted a baby from a young age and then kept re thinking because i was too young . He knew i wanted a baby but said we are to young and we should wait. When i was 16, i kept telling him i was realli broody , and he said he wanted to have children with me but we are too young, hes 2 years older than me. Anyway we said we would try but keep it bewteen us two. We tried and then just forgot about trying but nt using anything. Id taken loads of pregnancy tests and none worked. I found out i was pregnant in a&e due to bad stomache cramps and the tests werent working!
So i was 17 when i was pregnant and i had my little girl 2 months after id turned 18.
I feel much more mature than my age and lots of ppl say so. Now i wouldnt change anything because shes my world and i do love been a mum.
However, me and her father arent together anymore and it is challenging to bring a baby up.
Do u both work? d u have your own place? we do/did.
I think u should wait until least 18/19 to start trying, im not saying it out of spite or anything, but i wanted a baby and a family of my own so much and i wanted to grow up so quick as i felt more mature than other ppl my age. But i wished i had of waited a bit longer.
Im here to chat just pm me if u want
xxx

Think about it long and hard

hey, my names tanya and im a mum of two kids, i was 16 wen i got pregnent and 17 when he was born, me and my partner (david) had been togeter 2 years b4 i conceved (and are still togeter today) Although neither of my children were planned and i love them to peices, i do sometimes wish i had them later on in my life. Now ive got my kids i could'nt imagine life without them!!!

But saying that, there is alot of things u miss about not having any kids, your friends stop coming round, cos come on, who wants to hang out with babies?? u change ur hole life style n the only life u end up having is your kids. The partying stops and the only thing in life u buzz about are the kids and chatting to other mums, it is boaring being a young mum. And im pretty sure its like that for older women with children as well.

Im not trying to persuade u to not have kids and im not saying go for it, but do u really no how difficult and demanding kids can be? i would seriously think about it.

You are young but that doesnt mean that people will look down on you as a "bad mum" just cos ur young. The people who thaught that me and David would'nt cope were actually our perents, not people in the street or on the bus, n we proved our parents wrong. And now they think were amazing for how weve been raising them. Obviously OLD people are the worst (u no, no sex before marrage all that crap) but let them think that way everyones entitled to an opinion.

If I had the chance to go bk in time I would have waited till in my mid 20's but everyones different, I hope u make the right choise FOR YOURSELF.

Goodluck with any decision you make, Tanya (mum of 2) age 18

I was that age with my first

i was 17 when i got prego and 17 when she came into the world.and i'm a great mommy.if u and your partner can support and take care of yourselves and the child then go ahead.but i can tell u people will try to put you down.it's not easy so good luck

i'm now 18 and my child is 8 months old and i'm 8 weeks prego 2morrow.

Depends

well i had 2 kids at 17 so i cant realy tell u what to do.im now 18.its compleatly natural 2 feel this way as youre a female and its natural.u may think ure prepared but its harder than u think.can u honastly afford to financially i mean nappies,pushchair,milk,food,ho use to rent,bills,councill tax,clothes etc coz its bloody hard and u will have to go without.also having a baby changes ure life,u wont b able to go out wiv mates like u did,ure freedom basical go,s.i dnt regret my babies,and im still with there father but my only regret is that i wish me and my partner didnt have babies so quick and wish we had just been able 2 enjoy each other for a few years as it will put a strain on yer relationship.

if youre having a baby knowing u cant totaly provide for it and plan to go on benafits then thats just stupid and y should i pay out my taxes just coz u cant b boverd 2 wait a few years however if u can afford it then its up 2 u.

17 too young

PLEASE DONT HAVE A BABY I HAD A BABY AT 19 AND I LOVE HIM TOO BITS BUT ITS HARDER THAN ANYTHING YOU WILL HAVE TO DO IN YOUR WHOLE LIFE. ENJOY BEING YOUNG AND CAREFREE YOU WONT GET THESE YEARS BACK. I GO TO UNI AND ITS SOOO HARD TRYING TO JUGGLE STUDIES WIT A TWO AND A HALF YEAR OLD ALL MY FRIENDS ARE OUT WHILE IM IN STUDYING AND BABYSITING PLEASE WAIT

Hi

I am a first time mother to a 9 month old, I am 27 and my partner is 32. The baby was planned. I cannot emphaise how much you life changes. The minute the baby is born you come second in everything. Literally if your hungry and the baby needs food then he comes first, if you need a shower and he is crying then he comes first.

Dont get me wrong he is great and i wouldnt change it but i am so glad i waited till i was in my twenties, seriously ask anyone who had a baby young and they are bound to tell you they missed out on so much.

Your too young at the moment. Enjoy your life, go travelling, go out with your mates have fun. If its something you both want then save now and make sure your financially secure before you have the baby cos it does cost a lot of money. You get loads of presents at the start but the cost of food nappies etc all add up.

Dont jump into anything make sure its something both of you want

jen xx

Hi

Hiya, im currently pregnant at 18, me and my fiance didnt plan this as i was on the pill. I really would not recomend this, I was gutted at first. seeing all my friends having their big 18 parties clubbing and watching them jet away on holidays going to uni, having nothing stopping them doing what they want made me resent being pregnant. (although i am now used to the idea of being a mother)

Are you financially ready? do you and your partner have good paying jobs? Where will you live, what if (heaven forbid) your baby is disabled do you feel ready for that? do you know how much babies cost?

Think about it please you have so much time for that in the future, have fun.

Nic xxxxxx

Hi hun!

I understand you're desire to have a baby...its a natural thing, thats what us women are built for! lol

I had my first child when i was 16 and my second when i was 18, both were completely unplanned. I am now 28. I dont regret having them as they are my angels and i couldnt live without them, however, i would NEVER recomend it to anyone. Things didnt work out with thier dad as we both grew up and changed as people. I really dont want to patronise you but from the age of 17 to the age of 27 you will change as a person. My life has been 100 times harder than my friends as i have always had to consider 2 other human beings in every decision i made.

If my My daughter, who is now 11 fell pregnant at the same age i did with her, i would be completely devastated. I know that may sound hypocritical but i just want her to have the advantages in life that i didnt.

My advice to you would be to wait. Wait for a few years till you've experienced more of life yourself. Go on holidays, party, have fun because when a baby comes along its 100 times harder to do these things.

I'm only giving you my point of view on this and you dont need to agree but please think carefully. You have the rest of your life to have kids!

Good luck to you in whatever you do

x