19 pregnant what should i doo??

i took a home pregnancy test and it was possitive!! i dont no what to do me and my boyfreind are no longer togatha and when i told him about the test he said that i have to have an abortion!! i dont fink i want that thou i dont want to go through that what should i do???

Hi chick

I'm Kirsti. I'm 20 now but I had my little girl when I was 16. She was the best thing that ever happened to me and I wouldn't change her for the world.
In my opinion, if you get pregnant unplanned then you should be prepared to handle the consequences! I also was a single mum until I met my now fiancee. It was very very hard work ( she was born 16 weeks premature ) I won't lie but I couldn't be happier. I do wish sometimes that I was with my friends, partying, at uni, working properly and seeing the world but seeing her face every morning is a million times better than all that put together
You can do it if you choose to. There is so much help and support out there for young single mums. There's nothing stopping you still getting a good job. I had Daisy after I left school yet I still went to college and I'm now a qualified hairdresser.
Even if bringing a child up is not for you at this time then there is still loads of support out there. Nobody will judge you at all. It's your body and your baby so do what you feel right.
Stuff the babies dad. He sounds a waste of space anyways. Daisy dosen't see her real dad and she dosen't care and neither do I. We're happy in a loving family home with my fiancee and we have another baby on the way

If you do decide to keep your bubs then keep coming on this forum. It saved my life.

Much love and best of luck in what ever you choose.

Kirsti, Daisy (3) and 29+4 suprise bump.xx

Hey

hey! i found out i was pregnant at 19 to. my baby girl is now 8 months old. i love her to pieces and wouldnt take her back for the world.shes my all. but iv got to admit that i do wish that i could have gone to uni, partied, got drunk lol traveled the world, messed around and experience my life abit more. life as a single mum is hard.its your decision tho and id have a hard think about what you want from life, you never get the years back and your only young once!

jeni xx

Hiya

hi. had 2 kids at 17 but ive now turned 18.my lil girl ella is 3 (who i fell pregnant with at 14 and my lil man jayden is 6 months(prenant wiv him at 17).both pregnancys wernt planned but i couldnt go thru with abortion.can i just stress i am not anti abortion as it every womens free right but it was just a personal desition i made.i look back now and i wouldnt change a thing,sure it has been hard at times but i had my bf and my family behind me.having a baby or unexpected pregnancy dont mean ure life ends infact i have found that is has actually driven me more to do my best in life and be succesful.yeah your young but dont mean you can be any less of a mum than any one in there 30s.wen i had my daughter every1 looked dwn at me and thought i would be a typical teenage mom but now i just laugh at them,im going to college in sept and me and my b.f. have our own lovelyplace together.also im gonna add this even though i wasnt coz it was somthing i didnt wana relive but at 16 i had a termination and i made a huge mistake as i sufferd guilt and depression. but any ways goin bit off subject ere.f**ck ur ex.its your desition and ure body.and can i just say he doesnt dictate weather you abort.so may women raise babies without blokes and do a great job i dnt personaly think its a good enough reason to abort.please keep me up 2 date wiv how u get on. xxx

Hi hun

I can totally understand how you are feeling right now as I am pretty much in the same boat as you. My babys dad is saying the exact same thing but I have basically told him he is not going to force me in2 having an abortion, that I will make a decision on my own without him. We had only been seeing each other a few months and I slept with him once only which has lead to this baby whilst taking the pill religiously.

I would say to you do what is best for you hun,no1 else. It is your body,your life. Have you spoken to any of your friends/parents about it?? If not Id say your best to do this,I felt so much better once I had spoken to a few of my close friends. I have yet to tell my parents and I am crappn myself at the thought....scares me what they are going to think.

You are pretty late to be getting an abortion though if you are deciding on this...Im not sure of the cut of but the stage you are at im not sure if this is going to be an option.Have you been to your doctor yet,when did you find out??

Anyway hun I am here for you if you want to talk about things, take care of yourself.

Lou x

If you want to get in touch pm me as I am on here most days x

Hi

Hiya, i really sympathise with you. all this to go through and on your own.
Have you told your family or friends? can they offer suport ?

I think you should have a good think about how you feel about becoming a mother, how you will financially support yourself and your child. Are you ready to give yourself fully to raising a child? What will your babies father do if you keep the baby?

I really recomend you research child care, pregnancy etc. Even read stories about young mums who have done it. 'standupgirl' is pretty good.

Good luck hun xxxx