Husband is up to no good or is he!!

Hi please help me I can't talk to anyone as its so embarressing, basically I have been married for 6 years and I feel like i a in hell I have a daughter who is 7 and when she was 10 weeks old I found out that my husband was heavily in to sex through the internet, you name it his has done it, meeting strangers in lay bys, having sex with other peoples wives while their husbands watch and sex with prostitutes, he was obviously heavily into it way before he met me but a year after we met and we had our daughter he left his hotmail account logged on and well thats the end I found pictures of him and other women....Except I couldn't leave he said he was sorry that he was glad I had found out that things had happened when he was younger and now he found it hard to know the difference between making love and sex. Well its now 7 years later and I still can't get over it, I don't trust him, and I hate sleeping with him because I wonder if he is thinking that he is with them. He wouldn't go to counselling so I did and I spent 3 years on anti- depressants it helped a lot and I don't take the tablets anymore but things at home are horrible he is always so moody and the children hate it when he is there, I have two older children from a previous marriage (18 & 14) they notice things more but the younger one has very little to do with him. He moans because I go to bed early but thats because I am so tired after doing everything at home, he works in London so by the time he gets home he is so moody and really horrible if there is no dinner ready. Yesterday I found 13 filthy dvds hidden in his work bag and they really were horrible ones a complete diary series of "Dogging" now I can't even look at him and I want to go but I can't because although we have a mortgage together, with equity in it, financially things are tight and I am not sure I would cope, plus if I tell him its finished then he will stop money that he transfers to me and I will sink!! I feel so trapped.....please help

Start saving now!

hi ya,

please, please, pleeeaaaaase 4 the sake of u and your kids start saving now. Save enough, i don`t know in a big locker box, in a savings account( a sectrec one) save enough cash 4 u and your kids, get a house, and one day, when he`s at work pack your stuf, get your kids and LEAVE. He is a dirty horrible man, you deserve better.


Hunny, u must break FREE

NOW!

GOOD LUCK
S XXX

Hi

Chop his balls off!!!

Sex aint oxygen

loved friend,
lets get facts first.how and where did you meet coz it was a common interest place. does your familly have friends or close relations that you can trust with information.get yourself a job.
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I do work

I met him through work but we both dont work there anymore. I do have my mum but I wouldn't even know where to start in telling her as she is quite old now and what would that achieve she would just worry herself, I told his sister not so long ago when there was a massive row at home and I had nowhere to turn, she was really sympathetic but at the end of the day he is still her brother and regardless of everything she is carrying on like nothing, so probably a big mistake in telling her. I do work but only part time well 30 hours a week as I have a 7 year old.

Im so sorry

Im so sorry you are in this situaton.He sounds lke a very selfish man!I understand your'e predicament,alot of women are in simular boats,it's sad when its all to do with fnances.
Don't do anything rash but why don't you go and see a family solicitor and find out exactly where you'd be left financially and then you know at least what you'd be sacrificing,speak to womens aid or something lke that as they wll come across situations like this and may be able to advise you on your optons(they don't just deal with battered women!),go and see a solicitor and then take it from there,don't regret never making that move!I don't suppose talking to your husband is an option?,is there any love there ?
Whatever you decide i hope you are happy
Take care