Looking for advice is it love? please, if you have time to kill!

Hi Ladies, I'm new to this site so just to say a big warm hello from here in Egypt.

I'm actually British but I've been living and working out here for 2 and a half years as a singer in the tourist resorts. It's a nice, easy life and lots of sunshine.

I've been living with my (Egyptian) boyfriend for over 6 months and I'm starting to have some doubts as to where the relationship is going. It's driving me crazy and it's starting to make us both uneasy as I try to stay grounded. An outsiders opinion would help me out a lot. I don't have a lot of Western friends out here and obviously the mentality is a lot different and Egyptians can't really understand where I'm coming from

I turned 21 a couple of days ago and this is my 2nd serious relationship. When I first met him, I was madly "in love"... couldn't eat, sleep, breathe.. I'm sure you've all been there. Our relationship was founded on passion, lust, and wild, romantic fancy.

As that passion seems to be dying down a bit, I've realized that we have very little in common, and there is nothing about him that I really like or respect in any major way. He's kind, gentle and easy going, but recently those qualities have been annoying me irrationally. I don't know why! Perhaps it's because I'm so passionate about many things and he doesn't seem to care? Or maybe it's because I've grown up in such a different culture that my outlook on life is so different, I feel he does not- or simply cannot- understand me. Relationships in Egypt are different, and what I expect out of it is probably something different entirely to what he expects.

He is very respectful and caring, also open minded, but I feel that he's naive in many things and lately I've started to feel trapped, irritated, bored... I don't know?

I've tried to be patient and restore the magic that we once has but even if I did, is that enough to found a long lasting, healthy relationship on? Or am I just expecting too much and being fussy (in wanting someone I can communicate with?) His language skills aren't that great, although he does speak English and me Arabic... however my subjects of interest include politics, philosophy, feminism... all of which he knows or cares very little about.

As per the culture here, he wants us to be married as soon as possible but I'm having doubts, and even wondering if I should continue the relationship at all. I am a very rational, level headed person who tripped up and fell in love, and now I'm in this situation and I don't know if I'm happy with it. It's so fast and I feel we're so different. Is it worth trying? Can a relationship like this ever work or is it doomed to fail? There's a broodiness in me longing for marriage and a family of my own, is that need pushing my rational mind aside?


Any advice would greatly appreciated.

Thanks and hope you all have a great day x

Hi

i`ve just read your post and i`m in sort of the same situation. have u tried spending time apart from each other for a while? sometimes love can soon turn into hate as it has done with me now i just feel trapped and confused... the best thing to do is spend some time apart you will either have a sence of relief or will pine for him.
I spent the time apart from my relationship and it only took me a couple of days to realise that the grass is greener on the other side, and i have 2 children with this man!
my partner thought by having a child we would become more bonded, and now he wants to get married aswell.... is that just a man`s quick way of sayin everythin is fine in his eyes and makes u think that it is all in your head and that they have done nothing wrong.....
hope this message helps you, i no it has me.... wow its amazing how your mind heals itself by helping others thanks.

Looking for advice is it love? please, if you have time to kill!"

I think if your thinking like this after only 6months maybe the relationship wont work over a long period of time.Think carefully about marriage,would you want,or can you see youself spending the rest of your life with this man?
Having alot in common does help towards a long and happy life together as you share interests etc.