Hung up on his ex??

I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years about 2 and a half months ago, and although I was very upset at first because I still loved him (we broke up because I was sick of him not being willing to work at the relationship and prioritising time with his friends etc over me) I had managed to feel like I was moving on. I wasn't looking for anyone else but then met somebody about 3 weeks ago and we really hit it off straight away. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed and things were going absolutely great, we both seemed totally smitten. His ex girlfriend (they have been broken up for 6 months) asked to meet him and he didnt go as he said that I was the only one that he was interested in. When she rang another time I told him that I was starting to worry as I felt like they would probably have got back together again (they have broken up and got back together several times before) if it wasn't for me. He told me that they didnt work at all so that wasnt the case, and that she wasnt his concern anymore so he wasn't even going to answer the call.

However, last weekend she rang again and he started going very quiet. he then told me that he was stressed out about her. i asked him if he missed and he said a bit so he left the room to ring her back . when he returned he said that she had been calling him all of the names under the sun because she had guessed he was with someone else. as part of a big conversation he admitted that he still felt responsible for her and cared about her, and that he missed her because she had been such a big part of his life that he wasn't used to her not being around. overall, he admitted that she had broken up with him because he cheated and that they had never gotten over that so had driven themselves mad arguing. i don't know why he seems to have changed over the last couple of weeks, but i'm guessing that they still love each other... even though when we first got together he said that he was over her. basically, i'm thinking i should just cut my losses and run for the hills, rather than being left feeling second best and that he's only with me because the woman he wants can't over the cheating. if she managed to convince him she could change and stop arguing over it i'm guessing i would be ditched pretty quickly!! (ps, they have to stay in touch with each other for now at least because they are sorting out a joint mortgage)

i just wanted to check if other people would have read this situation in the same way, because we do get on great?? i know most people would say to ask him how he feels, but he's told me he doesnt know what he wants and that hes confused. so any answer that i get isnt necessarily going to be the same answer as i would get in a weeks time anyway... i'm already totally confused so i'm thinking that the longer i let it go on the more likely i am to get really hurt....

i really appreciate any advice,

thanks,

kay

Hung up on his ex?

you can also look at it like you guys got on so well because you were both on the rebound, and enjoyed each others company. I think if he still has to go lock himself away in a room to speak in private to her then it is not worth your time because it is obvious that he still hold feelings for her or he would be comfortable talking to her in front of you. i think you should ask him what he wants and tell him to be honest with you and himself. because it appears that you might be the one who gets hurt and maybe instead of jumping into a relationship you should take sometime out to get to know yourself.

Let him be

i think u should cut ur losses and let him get over his confusion - that way even if he does get back with his ex, u wouldn't have wasted any more time and if he choses not to and decides he really wants to be with u he knows where to find u and will appreciate the space u gave u him - who knows, in a few days/weeks/months time u could've changed ur mind..