I need some advice... feel down and lonely

Me and my partner broke up 2 weeks ago now,
he basically said he does love me... but doesnt feel in the right place for a relationship and just wants to be alone.
Obviously if thats the way he felt, theres nothing i could do about it.

I'm having a hard time getting him out of my head, he's always there.. like little things reminding me.
we still talk ( which is probably not the best thing for me atm, but i would like to be his friend, but i must admit i am finding it very hard)

he's been out every night non stop for the weeks we've been seperated, whereas i can hardly bare to do it.
he told me beginning of last week that his best friend christian had set him up on a blind double date.
basically christian asked a girl out,, she asked if her friend could come.. so christian asked my ex to come along to 'make up numbers'
he said it wasnt a date, nothing will come of it etc etc etc, he doesnt want a relationship, if he did he would be with me still.

The double 'date' has now been and gone,, and i was told by a mutual friend of ours that he told them it went well, and is going to see her again... he doesnt no what will come of it though as he doesnt want a relationship.

Its fair enough if he doesnt get into a relationship with her, but the thought of him with someone else, even just him having 'fun' with her.. if u no what i mean.
just turns my stomach and makes me feel very sad, down and very lonely and tbh upsets me a bit cuz i didnt think he would 'move on' so quick and for someone who has always said he loved me... i thought he would have thought more of me, as it has only been 2 weeks

I act fine around him and when i'm talking to him etc... but as soon as i'm alone i break down. i really did love him.
he would never tell me who she was... he eventually told the mutual friend who then told me... its no-one i know luckily but a girl who works in bar, i was in the bar the other day and the friend pointed her out, and to make it worse, she's stunning and amazing figure.

This brought me right down, i feel very depressed and just dont know how to move on.. i honestly dont no what to do.
when i finally get in the mood to go out, i end up changing my mind cuz i dont wanna bump into him or go home early cuz i have bumped into him and brings down my mood.
i hope someone can help me? give me some advice... or someone whos been in the same position and got through it.
Thanks everyone xxx

I need some advice... feel down and lonely

the way I see it is, if he wanted to be with you he would be with you. him saying he doesn't want to be in a relationship but in the same breath telling you things that he is doing with someone else is a slap in the face and almost like him making sure you have a connection to him but not really with him and then you end up putting your life on hold. You said you seen this girl and she is beautiful and has an amazing body, but obviously you must be beautiful and amazing to if you were together. I say to move on with your life and don't be so inclined to speak with him on a daily basis this is going to make it difficult for you to move on. Keep your conversations with him to a minimum and if you have to go on dates even if you don't like the person and see how he reacts to you moving on.

Help and advice

I am in exactly the same situation as you and I am feel exactly the same everywhere I go and everywhere I turn he is there. When I go on to facebook he has messages plastered on there about how much of a great time he is having while I just feel like I want to die. It is literally as though I never existed.

I did the crazy thing and bombarded him with textes to get back together - yet I was the one who found out he cheated on me when we first met yet he finished with me.

One advice I would give you is to completely cut him out of your life which is what I have done every reminder of him has been put in two black bags you cannot be friends with someone you still love while he is still in your life as you are only hurting yourself. My breakup has only been two weeks and this is the first time today that I have actually started to eat I have lost so much weight.

I am trying to just focus on myself now and be positive its is extremely hard but I have to keep telling myself even when I am dying inside that everything is fine.

I really wish I could take away your pain as I know right now what that is like - The song that reminds me of my life right now is breathe slow by Alesha Dixon.xx

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It'll be okay

It might make you a bit upset, but listen to some songs that demonstrate the sort of situation that you're going through. Like, example The - Breakeven.

Men? Where do I start. I think with this girl on the double date he's done the honest and right thing by saying 'he doesn't want a relationship, if he did he would be with you', this does show that if he was swept off his feet by this girl and all went well, he would've asked her out.

I kinda get your grief when you say he doesn't know what will come of it, you might feel that twinge of a 'maybe' for them getting together. But it hasn't happened, so keep smiling.

It hadn't been long, 2 weeks you say? One ex of mine got with another girl the night we broke up 'to avoid grief', I suppose it's the case with other guys too.
They want to channel their feelings onto something else, to not vent it, but to push it aside and carry on, in this case.
While you're the one left hurt.


I'm sure if you explained to him that it's not fair for him to go flaunting his status round so soon, he would understand that it's not doing you any good.
Tell him in the nicest way possible you're hurting because of it, and he will stop.

Just be careful not to nurse this for too long.
He may come back to you in time, but please, don't save yourself for him for too long if no hope signs show, it will only kill you more.


Since this was posted Janurary, I hope everything is okay
Get back to me if you can xxx