I am such a cow!

Hi was wondering if anyone could help and not judge me...i have formed a relationship with sum1 at work and things were going well...but just lately he has been so controling always on my back telling me not to dress the way i do am not allowed out on the town without him etc...its been getting me dwn quiet abit and its affecting my child (the child is from previous bad rel) so just lately i have been rebeling against him...going out in wot i want etc and he doesnt like it...thn one day i got a taxi and got chatting to the driver and we have sort of formed a relationship (i no its bad and most of ya wil judge me 4 tht) this driver is 20yrs older thn me and yes again thts bad but thrs something thr he is amazing kind soft and would do anything for me...the lad am with at the mo is only 1yr older thn me and his so imature i hate it my child acts older then him...i do have feelings for this lad but not like i have for the older one...your probs thinking y aint i breaking it off with him but i cant its hard because everyone at work likes him and i kno i will get thr crap from it pleae can some1 help me am in a rite state....x

This man/ boy- the first one is controlling. As you pointed out. He may be doing this because he's insecure but frankly, its not on. Its not right for him to tell you what to wear and when to go out. Just get rid of the dude, especially if its effecting your kid. Don't matter if they're from another bad relationship- they are still your kid. Your his mum. Anything that effects him in a bad way isn't good.

I'd get rid of him and his power run.

Can't say I'm too sure with the random spark of a relationship with the cabbie, but it seems like a cry that you feel you aren't for the right person.

Its no one elses business at work. He's probably an entirely different person there! If he goes round telling everyone you broke off with him then it shows what a little brat he is! Its your life, not theirs. At work its just gossip; they don't actually live with the dude. All you have to say is that it didn't work out. Leave it at that. Try not to get upset if they ask questions. Could always smile and as "why would you want to know"?