It has been 7 years!!!

I have been in a physical and emotional, for me, relationship with this man for 7 years. Through the entire relationship, there has always been an understanding between us. Yes, we have been having sex but there are no strings attached. He could see other people and so could I. I think that may have been a bad move. Well, as the years went on, I became very attached to the man. I began to want only him and he continued to see other people. He always threw out little sarcastic remarks about me seeing other people which caused me to think that he was not happy with it, so I stopped. Once I stopped, he became my one and only, which he loved, but I still had to share him with other women. He says that he never told me to give up anything for him. Well, just recently, I became pregnant by him. He didn't believe it was for him and the other women had so much to say. In any event, time went on and he became comfortable with the idea and even excited to be having a baby. He still had doubt that it was his but I think that it was just his ego. Anyway, he spent nights with me, called everyday, checked in on me, and basically spent all the time with me a boyfriend would. Yes, he was still seeing this one particular girl. Keep in mind that we were still living under the same 'no strings attached' relationship rules as before, but I was pregnant and he wanted to be a part of it.

Ok! I devastatingly lost my baby at 6 months pregnant. He was there through the entire process. He cried with me and held my hand to show me comfort. For about a month, he was so supportive and understanding. Now that time has passed, he is getting kinda tired of my constant moodiness, Not to say that the rules ever changed but he has gone right back to things as usual. No strings attached! I am still dealing with the loss of my little girl and not very well if I might add and I really cannot see me going back to the life I was living before I got pregnant.

Leave him you say! Not that easy. I love him, I really do, We lost a child together and letting him go feels like I am losing everything. I have leaned on him so much since our daughter died and I really don't want to let him go. I wnat us to be in an exclusive relationship and try to have another child together. He told me that he is not ready for all that.

Does anyone think that this man loves me or was the entire 7 years just a farce? If it was a farce please tell me HOW CAN I LET HIM GO AND MOVE ON WITHOUT FALLING TO PIECES?

Re:

First of all I'm really sorry to hear of the loss of your baby. That must have been a really traumatic time for you. Secondly It sounds like this guy really needs to grow up and stop thinking about himself. You have been through so much together but he still hasn't changed. Sounds to me like he needs to start being more responsible and grow up or find yourself a nice man that you deserve. It sounds to me like he is too set in his ways to change for a long while to come. Hope this is helpful.