Can't get over my ex

heyy...just joined this site literally an hour ago. but thought the girls and guys on here might be able to help...

my and my bf broke up in november just before our year anniversary. we broke up over a silly little arguement. and we havent got back together i miss him loads and i was actually heartbroken when he left me. im not gonna lie, i did the chasing after him, i feel like a complete idiot for doing it but i just love him so much that i couldnt bare to be without him. anyways its been nearly 5 months and i havent moved on at all. i know for a fact he has and it's just so hard knowing he's moved on and i'm still stuck where i was. i'm still young (18) but my self-esteem has hit rock bottom, i dont actually think i'll get another bf. i just think who's gonna want me? i just dont know what to do. i know there's no chance of us getting back together, so i'm trying to move on, but i just cant.

i dont know what to do anymore.

I understand

Hey girl, know exactly what you are going through. I lived with my X for 6 months and one day he was just gone, literally left for a week and did not contact at all. We had a 4 bedroom house and had another room mate that lived there, while he was gone what I thought was a close friend I confided in on how upset and worried I was.Turns out when he got back, he got a new phone line and had been calling our room mate the whole time and checking up on my whereabouts. This really hurt, but still I tried so hard to fix everything. It is obvious he has no intrest in being with me but I am having a hard time moving on. I'm 20 and just feel son confused, felt like everyhting I was dreaming up was just thrown out the window and I was betrayed by a friend. Its tough girl, you'll work through it. It will take an amazing guy to get you through it, but you will know it when you see him.

Divorce

Hi to everyone,Unlike everyone else I completely agree. I dont believe in divorce and I dont think you meant it the way everyone has taken it. I have been with my significant other for a while and just recently had a beautiful baby boy. Hes always agreed with me that divorce would never be an option. We believed working it through till the end, or so I thought. Last night he just said he believed in divorce. I'm torn and can't decide to continue the relationship or not. Believe me... there are times when it is the ONLY option. The mistake we did was that we didnt seek any advice and guidance from http://www.nobsdivorceadviceguide.com / which was recommended by my friend. Otherwise we could have saved our marriage.

Heya

hiya hun im in da same postion im 18 aswell goin on 19 an we jus broke up a month ago I know its really hard, too hard I miss my x aswell an yes i chased afta him an he rejected me but a very good friend told me if ur love leaves u and comes back and if it doesnt it was never meat to be. I totally understand u hun an i honestly feel 4 u cuz im exactly in da same place as u buh try an keep busy show him that u have moved on other wise he'll think ur a losa sorry to put it like that. I tried and now i am slowly getting my lyf back together, I will always love him and I don't think i'll eva date agen simply becasue he was the best thing in my lyf and he was the one for me buh dnt stop ur lyf 4 him carry on and the stronger u will get and mayb one day u'll feel different i knw it seems like u wont buh time is a great healer. Another thing is my x has moved on aswell and i can't stand to even think about it buh i know dat if its meant to be he'll cum back mean while im not gna sit around w8tin 4 him b a strong woman and get on with things that will keep ur mind occupied dats wot i do and i dnt like life without him buh wot can we do nuffin i tried now i leave it to God seriously babe try going out jus for a while and have a gd tym it can do u sum gd an if u wna talk jus mail me back an we'll have a heart to heart if u want xxxx tc b strong

Hi

hello hun.i m in exactly the same position and we broke up november after 3 year.you l have good and bad days hun.it will get better 4 both of us.i promise.i ran after him 2.made an idiot of myself.i m 40.got a daughter who s 21.its hard but you will meet sum1 eventually.it s hard when your young but dont keep looking back.look .x

Keep yourself busy

Hi there

Breaking up sucks and it's incredibly painful. I know at the moment you can't see a light at the end of the tunnel, but trust me, you'll get there.
I'm in my mid-thirties and have had several break-ups during my life so far and here are some ways in which I've coped and tried to move on:
1. Keep yourself busy: this could be taking up a hobby, activity outside of school / college / work.
2. Going to the gym, working out - this is such a great way of feeling good about yourself, because you're not only making your body more toned, but you'll also release endorphins ('natural' drug produced by the brain), which will make you feel good and more energetic etc.
3. Start dating other people, even if you don't feel like it. If someone asks you out, make an effort to go. It doesn't have to lead to anything, but it will help build up your confidence and make you realise that there are plenty of guys out there that would want to be with you. Gosh, you're only 18 (sorry, I don't mean this to sound patronising), but what I'm trying to say is, that you're so lucky - think of all the guys that you could potentially date.
4. Go out with your friends and try and have fun.
I know it's hard, but really, it will get easier - just try and do some of these things.
One of the other things I've realised, is that once you've told a person how much they mean to you and that you want to be with them etc, if they don't feel the same way, you simply can't make them want to be with you. The ball's in their court and I really believe that if they're meant to be in your life, they'll come back to you and realise what they had. If they don't, move on. You'll eventually find someone who adores you, then lyou'll look back and think, well, If I hadn't moved one from that relationship, I would never have met the person I'm with now.

Good luck and all the best.