My 'lovely' boyfriend left me for someone else...

Me and my boyfriend were together for just over 3 years and were always so so happy and in love. We were that couple that made everyone else jelous. We moved in together 2 years ago and everything was perfect, no problems, no arguments and he was always the most caring and loving person. In september he started a course at University to train to be a teacher, I had done the course the previous year so we knew it was hard work and would be tough on us as it takes up so much time, but we werent worried. Anyway, he satarted going on lots of nights out with the other people on his course and behaving like a student again (he is nearly 29, they are all 23-24), but I didnt really comlain, although it bothered me, and often would drop him off and pick him up etc. Any way, cut a long story short, he has ended up leaving me for a 23 year old girl off his course. It was so out of the blue, we hadnt been arguing or anything, even before the day he told me he was still saying how much he loved me and buying things for our flat etc. But now he has gone and moved out and will literally not speak to me atall. He says he is in love with her and is being nasty as though it is me who has done something bad not him. I am finding it really hard to accept, mostly because I dont understand. I didnt think there was anything wrong, because surely if we were having problems I would have noticed too?? I dont know how, after how serious we were, he can just cut me out of his life so easily and quickly. Sometimes it all seems laughable, like he is going through a bit of a late 20's crisis and liked the thought of her, who is younger and goes out and gets drunk with him and his friends, compared to me and his 'grown up' life living together. And, having done the course myself, I know how intense it is and you feel like you have this huge bond with the other people on it...but that soon ends when the course finishes! And I cant help but think that if it all goes wrong with her then he will come back to me, because why wouldnt he if we werent having any problems except her?
I just want to know if anyone has been through anything similar and how it worked out? So far everyone who I have spoken to who has been through a similar thing has said that they had been arguing for a while or something..but we hadnt. I dont need to hear that I need to get over it and move on etc, because Im not stupid and I know that, and I will eventually, but Im not at that point yet.

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Hey there, don't know your ex but seems to me like he just might not be a deep person at all and that he can only truly love on a shallow level. Thats why he upped and gone cos it takes a lot of energy to be that loving and perfect for so long. He probably gave you a very different version of his true self . Now its been a while and the cracks are starting to show on him.
He sounds adventuruous and ambitious so i'm assuming that he comes across as a very attractive man.
So off he trots with this new gang of acquaintances, who are younger probably boosts his confidence massively cos he has more life experience where as you seem to already be a formidable woman also driven and ambitious. The girl who he's with is just a detail at the moment, thats the bit that makes me think he's shallow at heart. Think he feels like he's not up to the mark, as far as you are concerned his actions are only showing insecurity. His anger is guilt showing itself sideways. In the end our emotions always come out in one form or another.
So it's down to whether you value yourself and expect better treatment in the future but be willing to accept it might not be him, Much love to you and hope you start to heal from the upset with or without him xx