Help me, i am a mess!

Hi all, last year my fiancee and I were having problems, and I believe she asked you all for advice over a guy confessing her love and showing attention that she almost couldn't resist. Basically we got through it, now unfortunately she started a new job and one of her bosses did the same, 1 month ago she ended is saying she didn't love me in the relationship way anymore, however I have found that she left me for this guy at work, and is with him. I have lost everything, am on antidepressants, seeing a shrink, and am on suicide watch, I can't eat, can't sleep, can't function. I want her so bad, I still love her, but cannot stop thinking about them. I am a mess, we were going to get married and trying for a baby. I had a feeling about the guy and warned her but she didn't listen, and now I have lost. I didn't do anything wrong but feel like I am being punished please help me.

Hi there

Hey,

I feel really bad for you and I am so sorry that this has happened to you. YOu have to look at the positive though, yes it is hard and yes you still want her. But do you really really want to be with someone you cannot trust and unfortunately doesn't respect or love you. I don't believe that there is just one person for everyone. I think that there are a lot of people that are suitable for you. I'm sure it hurts really badly right now but imagine how much worse it would have been if you had got married and had children then she had done this. You need some time with your friends, find who you are and learn from this experience. You will get though this and you will meet someone else. I truly beleive that! My mum was with the love of her life when he suddenly died, she was on her own and thought she'd never be happy again. She accepted that she would be lonely for the rest of her life. Guess what? She joined match.com and has been with a guy for nearly a year and this time she really has never ever been happier, she's always smiling and gets butterflies like a teenager. My point is hold out time will heal you. You came into this world on your own you don't need her, you don't need someone who will hurt you so badly. Learn to be you find out who you are and you will come out fighting stronger and I promise you won't let anyone treat you this way agian.

Laura x

Here! here !

I second what Laura said, as hard as it may seem now you WILL get over this as someone as warm and caring as you has soooo much more to offer and I'll bet a great big heart just waiting to beat again for that special someone and YES they are out there waiting so DON'T let them down. YOU are worthy of the best love that a person has to give but you have to go and grab it with both hands....and learn from this past relationship and remember to keep hold of a big piece of your heart for YOU because you need to love yourself before someone else truely can. We have all felt like you do right now and please believe me when I say the best way to get over a

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I don't know how but some of my last reply has been lost???? so I'll continue here if i may?
the best way to get over a lost love is to get another and you will look back in time and say "thank god I have learned".... for in life EVERY day is a "school day". So go take a look in the mirror and SMILE... you are looking at your best friend and that friend will help you every step of the way...........Good Luck & BIG HUG'S
.......Loraine x