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Hi everyone,

Well you may remember last year I was rambling on how my husband drinks and become very, very abusive etc. when drunk So far I haven`t had the strenght to go away, just leave him and just go. Tonight it really escalated as he has been in the pub the whole day, his dinner got all cold and he turned up at 11pm smelling of alcohol and just ripped my comuter and smashed it on the floor, than took his dinner plate and smashed it against the wall and even took a knife and ripped the sofa open

I swear I haven`t been so scared my whole life. Our little boy was asleep upstairs, thankfully he didn`t wake up.

So please, please any advice will be welcome. But before you say " Oh just go to the Women`s Refuge Centre", remember that I don`t really wanna leave my lovely house( for which I pay the mortgage for)and in wich I have all my precious belongings. I mean my everything is here, and leaving it all will really, truly hurt.

God help me, I`m so scared of him right now


B xx

Ouch.

I am gonna be blunt and you may not like it.

It can be easy inthe long run, LEAVE, I know you do not want to leave your house and your possesions, but they are material and can be replaced with even better things in time. They mean nothing if you choose them to mean nothing.

YOUR LIFE DOES, to be alive is one of the greatest gifts of all. If not THE GREATEST.

Pack a bag, Grab the Kid and Get the F out.
I myself have been on the other side, I am a recovered alcoholic and am 5 yrs sober, and when I was drunk, I felt nothing but pain and anger, I can tell you now, he can only help himself and clearly he aint gonna. So GET OUT for the sake of your self and your child, forget ya stuff.

It can and may get worse.

Please, Please, Please.
GET OUT NOW.

Your Life is far more valuable than materialistic things.

My Thoughts and Heart is with you.
GOOD LUCK.
xx

Oh honey

bloody hell and I thought I had problems
I really wouldn't know where to start honey, have you thought about citizens advice? They will be able to give you an independent view and where you stand legally! You could change the locks when he's out but that will only aggrevate him and you don't know what he will do! A real toughie honey, how much strength have you got in yourself? Enough to do something drastic? Only enough to keep going? Depends what your head and heart is strong enough for! You will do what is right for you and your son when the time is right and you have the strength in you to do it!
Good Luck honey xx

Sorry dear b

This sounds aweful! Somehow you have to get him out even if you have to involve the Police and seek an injunction?

You just said it you are scared and he must be a complete arsehole - with that thought in mind can you not involve friends or familly in this problem?

I guess you know he has got to go before he hurts you and he must have a drink problem anyway. Why do the people we sometimes love become so horrible in the end?

Share the issues with as many friends and family as you can and if possible you must make a dairy with dates of all that has happened and some digigtal pictures!

You know that you have to action soon - legal aid, lawyer next week. I am sure we all hope you get a resolution to this as it will very quickly make you ill?

Whats is happening

Time you gave us all an update. I am sure a lot of us on here are concerned?