Advice for a new girl

Hi girls, I am Fiona,a transexual ,finally living full time as the woman I have always wanted to be. I have recently started the process of trying to get a man in my life and quite enjoyed some nice snogs and some straying hands but still a bit frightened about full sex,but won't be long. The thing i really want advice on is if I should tell a boy friend I am transexual. Part of me says 'no' i am now a womanand what came before os irrelevant. On the other hand I would hate to really fall in love with a guy only for him to find out and than reject me. all thoughts most welcome.

New girl

I also agree that if you meet someone you should tell them what if somewhere down the line it becomes serious and he wants to get married and have children. How are you going to explain it to him. I believe that relationships are built on trust, and t's best to start them off on a postive note. This is really a tough thing to give advice on.

Never be scared to be the person you want to be!!

hey there! to be honest if it gets to a moment with guy when you look at him and you think I want to spend a huge chunk of my life with you, I want to entrust you with a piece of my soul then you have to tell him because it make up part of the magic that is you! its part of who you are even if it is part of your past!! and if he rejects you remember what elenor roosevelt said "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" and tell him to ... off and join the other apes ignorant minded ... ! Hope all goes well! and if you want to natter any time drop me an email duck!!

Hi sister

HONESTY all the way i think,emagine wot most lads/men would say if they found out afther,may b its not fair todo that to them,i have false boobs an i always am honest bout them in case someone else tells them later,u no maybe saving me the awquardness later.is there any one who could or would throw a spanner in the works for you,there normally is for me, all the look in the world,xx

Difficult one..

Hi Fiona,

I think it's fantastic that you have taken such a huge and incredibly brave step to become the person you want to be.

I think that if you fall in love with someone who loves you back equally, he should be able to accept you no matter what, and your past should not matter. I also think you will gain a lot of relief from being honest with the guy and therefore be wholly able to enjoy every aspect of the relationship - imagine going out with someone for years and always having this secret in the back of your mind - that would be a lot of pressure to handle.

However, I know that in reality, rejection is always a possibility and that that would hurt you very much - but I don't think you can ever have a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone who can't accept you for who you are. You are a woman, and therefore your past should not be an issue, and a decent man will understand this.

So I think tell, but only if things are becoming serious - there's no need to put yourself through the emotional hassle of telling people if there is a possibility the relationship won't progress anyway.

Hope this helps hun,

Gem xxx