In dark situation! pls help!!!

been married for 10 months. during sexual intercourse which usually last 15 minutes of my husband's erection he never cums inside of me, he gets soft and pull out and starts to masturbate and in about 5 minutes he gets hard again and cum.

Before we met he only has 1 sexual intercourse experience. So, most of his years he just masturbate or do self stimulation. by the way he's 40. So, I'm just wondering if this 'not able to cum inside of me' has to do with his getting used to with his masturbation and less experience with girls??

I'm really in the dark now and in needs of opinions!

Talk!

amongst what others said have you talked to him about it, it is probly a tentative subject so ask nicely :p but if he closes up then show that it hurts you and you only want to help you must talk..

It u sorry 2 say

it depends on the person ur probabably not satifyin him or he not sexually attracted 2 u n e more n wen he masterbates he can think bout da dream girl n imagine its u or he probably not in 2 girls but that question that he he used 2 masterbatin not the issue because people that use 2 masterbatin is the 1 that more in 2 sexin it depends who the person is cuz i heard of sum1 masterbate wen they want 2 cum faster but not get soft while there in u he probably losin intrest in da ... trust me i been there b 4 with mah ex i been wit 4 9 yrs holla at temptin 4 if u want more advice bout it

Hi

Hoo my god I have quite the same problem!
I am new in this site..did you find any interesting answer??

There has to be a reason

But the question is: are you getting your climaxes? Does it matter that he 'fills you up'? If not, enjoy his squirts!

One male view

This is one perspective from the other side.I don't claim to be an expert but I am in my early forties so my experience could be relevant .

Is he fit and healthy? I recall when I was overweight, I used to run out of breath quickly and was exhausted after a few minutes of thrusting. This inevitably cause the erection to go. Once I became fitter, and lost a lot of weight, my stamina improved and found that I did not have to stop to catch my breath, and restart.. I could bring myself to come without a pause.

Secondly, I wonder whether he is getting enough stimulation from the penetration inside you. I have found that with some women, whose vaginas are relatively large and relaxed after childbirth (instead of tight and firm) the penile stimulation may not be optimal. So when I was younger, I found there was a difference in my performance with different women according to the amount of penile stimulation I was getting. One solution would be stimulate him a lot BEFORE penetration.

Not sure the above is at all relevant in your situation, but thought it might provide you with some insight.

In the dark

firstly age has nothing to do with it, ask him why he doesnt cum inside you. i think what he's doing is called coitus interuptus.
your probably right, teach him what you like and share what he likes too. Maybe he has fantasies that he can share with you and would like to act out. The only way you will know is if you both talk.

I've not really come across this in my relationship time, lucky i guess, ive come across males that havent a clue what to do and the ones that dont know too much about females and ive had to guide them what i like .
my other half is nearly 50 and im 38, he has no problems in regards to sex and foreplay etc.


best of luck

In the porno

MY GUESS IS THAT WHEN HE MASTUBATED, HE WATCHED POEN TO HELP HIM TO CLIMAX. IN PORN
PULLING OUT AND EJACULATING IS CALLED THE 'MONEY SHOT'. WITHOUT THAT THE SCENE IS WORTHLESS. IN MODERN TIMES THAT RULE HAS RELAXED.

I BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE AN HONEST DISCUSSION WITH HIM. TRY NOT TO MAKE IT AN ARGUEMENT, JUST AN EXCHANGE OF DESIRES. MY GUESS IS ONCE HE UNDERSTAND, IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU, HE WILL BE A GOOD LOVER.

Re:"in dark situation! pls help!!!"

I had the exact same problem with my last boyfriend (20)! He wasnt sexually active before he met me. I think you are right that this has to do with him being used to mastubation. It got better after some time, maybe your husband will get used to it too and it only takes him longer because he is older.

In dark situation! pls help!

maybe because he is so used to masturbating thats the only way his body knows how to enjoy the act of sex, open up some lines of communication tell him what you would like him to do to you, and find out what turns him on and try doing it to him and another person posted this but maybe try masturbating him before the initial act of sex and see what happens it could be so many things. it's hard to say if he enjoys pulling out and then cumming when he does this how about you take over and masturbate him and when you feel like he is about to cum get him to put it back in and go from there hope this helps or even go get some sex counselling.