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hi girls!

I need some advice.My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years.From the very begining our sex life wasn't great but I hoped it would improve.Basically, he's not bothered about sex and Im finding it very hard as I've always had high sex drive.We love each other and I know for sure he's not seeing anyone else.He also says he fancies me but he just doesn't get turned on.We've argued a lot, I cried a lot 'cos it really upsets me.I've mentioned going to see a sex therapist but it just doesn't happen.Im always the one who talks about it, he never brings the subject up.In bed he always makes execuses, etc.
What do you think I should do? And do you think it will ever change? Has any of you ever had a similar problem?

Katie

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how have things been going for you and your relationship with your boyfriend

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I never been in a situation like this before but you need to let him know that him not being interested in sex affects you because you fell inadequate, and you just want him to enjoy making love like you do with him.

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how have things been going have you talked to your partner about the way you are feeling. because that is the only way change will be made.

Hi!!

it's 01:33 new years day... and i'm sitting here in front of computer writing instead celebrating... what a shame!!! i read you post and i must say that's the same reson why i'm sitting here... we are together for 3 years... well our sex live was great until i got pregnant.... since our son was born (5.dec.2006) our sex live does not exist.....
i do not even remember when was the last time.... cool, isn ...
compare to you we talk about sex all the time... but we only talk... this holiday he had almost 2 weeks off work and just guess how many time we had sex? good guess.... zero!!!!!! nothing at all... i'm so scared that it will only get worse.. we got married year ago and we already behave like we married for at least 20 years...

that's not even worth disscusing...

sylwia

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Hi Sylwia, Hope things have improved since you last wrote. Although it's many years ago, since I was a proud Father (in my early 20's) of a son and although I was still sexually attracted to my wife, I didn't want to hurt her through penertration. The other fear was that our son would be disurbed or disturb us, so kept putting it off.

However once he got to approx 30 months and became the 2nd greatest thing in my life our sex life returned. Looking at your dates, perhaps the time for rekindling the flame is soon. Hoping that this helps. Sam

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how have things been going I know I asked this before but you didn't reply. Talk to him about sex and maybe you all should go get some counselling so you don't feel as though it is you could just be a period that he is going through and soon it will be over.