Ex-wife and her new fella

My wife and myself are seperated and we now get on better than before. However she has a new fella in her life, which is OK by me, but, he is married. She explodes if anyone trys to advise her about the relationship, as she says that she knows what is happening, and she is OK with it. He has plenty of money and treats her well, whenever he is around, but I know it'll end in tears. Any ideas as to how to get her to see sense???

She is your ex-wife and not your minor child

I think you are just jealouse - that's all.

It's a tricky one...

Hi

I understand your frustrations and it is difficult to watch someone you are close to get into potentially heartbreaking situations.

It is not always possible for somebody to realise the situation they are getting in to (especially once their mind is set) and it is only the people closest to them who can actually see the "whole picture".

Try sitting down with her once more and explaining that you care about her feelings and that you do not want to see her get hurt. Don't tell her the relationship is bad or wrong just let her know that whatever happens you will be there for her and she can rely on your friendship bond and support, whatever her descisions.

I understand you want her to see sense but, unfortunately, she has to find out for herself and the more you speak against the situation she will become more determined to prove you wrong. There is also a danger that she will start shutting you out because she doesn't want to chance you bringing up the subject. It is a quicker process for someone to "wake up and smell the coffee" on their own accord than it is for them to try and keep proving to everyone that everything is great. It is more than likely she will realise what is happening in time and the relationship will fizzle out.

Just let her know you are there for her and leave it be. There is very little chance you will talk her out of this relationship.

I hope I have made some sense Good luck and stay strong

And still is a tricky one

Thanks for the advise. Brought the subject up the other day and tried to tell her about people being there when/if it all ended, but once again got a mouthful, about how they were so strong and it will go on "forever". I sorta lost it a bit and started being sarcastic, saying things like, it'll have to end when his wife finds out etc. But it seems as if he's told her his wife already knows something is going on, but has a good life so wont throw it away, and he has never been unfaithful before.
It is all soo corny, but I reckon I'll just have to bite my tongue and let her get on with it.....