Jealousy is cracking me up!!! help

I'm not the type of person who's jealous of what other people have.. or friends getting something nice.
I have how-ever major jealousy issues in my relationship.

we've been together for 3 months now. ( i no its not a massive amount of time) but in that time we have been through more than most couples.. we've been through abortion, a parent dying.. one thing after the other. There have definately been great times though... i love him very much, and he says the same to me, and considering what we've been through i dont dought him.

all this considered... I am always so jealous. if he goes out on a night out with his mates... even though i'm out with mine somewhere else i'm thinking bout what he's doing?? is he drunk and going to cheat? will he meet someone else? the list goes on.... he only has 1 friend who's a girl.. and i no her very well as she was my friend originally, i have nothing to be jealous off there but yet i still am when they can sit and talk about x-box ( which i cant stand) i hate it!!!!! he knows i am a jealous person and he hasnt given me any reason to be jealous.... i dont no why i am like this and want it to stop... any idea's??

also the funny thing is.. he;s very jealous too... and it has caused a few arguments and i really dont want this is spoil what we have... " there is no great love, without great jealousy" but there is a limit... any advice... ideas.. anything to stop my over active immagination and my green eyes flaring up anymore??? Thanks

"jealousy is cracking me up!!! help"

well if you know he is out and he is not doing anything then you need to give him the benefit of the doubt, and you said he is a jealous person too. Maybe you are both jealous becasue yo are always thinking the other will do something. I think you should both work on your trust issues, and if you wanrt to be able to speak x-box with him try to play an occasional game with him every now and then.

Accept that he chose to be with you

I know it's easier said than done but try to keep telling yourself that he's with you for a reason... cos he wants to be with you more than ANYONE ELSE in the world!!

Jealousy

being jealous means you are insecure, so you need to figure out why this is. Once you can get a handle on it you can learn to react to situations differently.
Do a self inventory and perhaps you can find a couple of things that you can work on to give yourself a boost of self esteem. You might just find with some additional self confidence things may seem a bit less dramatic.

Beat me in the end

Thankyou for the replie's ladies

Unfortuently my (and his) gremlins beat us... and we have broke up.
it might have been ok if it was only one person in the relationship who had jealousy issues, but when it was both of us... unfortuently it broke us apart in the end.

i think my insecurity come from past relationships... as in most of them, the bloke always ended up cheating on me and thats how my relationships ended, with me founded out that he did.
I believe this may be the same with his insecurity issues too.
it's now too late for me with him, but anybody else who reads this... i really hope you learn from my mistakes.... i now know i shouldnt always judge my current relationship... and him on previous ones. I hope i will not make the same mistake again, and if i meet someone else in the future, i hope to learn from my mistakes.

Thanks for the advice again.