I`m having an affair

Hi guys,
Well here it is: I am 27, been married to my husband who is 42 for almost 4 years and we have a lovely 3 year old boy. The problem is this: my hb drinks quite a lot(think I`ve written about his drinking here b4), every money he gets on hold of he goes strainght to the pub and drinks it. He`s also very untidy which I can`t stand, he offends me verbally and can be very verbally abusive. I march, I was so down that I was diagnosed with severe depression due to marital problems and was put on strong antidepressants. Every day I had to take a pill to make myself happy, where I knew and still know that the source of unhappiness was my marriage and my hb. So after being on the antidepressants for a few months now, I picked myself up, started going to work again and just simply started beeing my good old self.

So I met this wonderful man J. He is really absolutely lovely and makes me so happy. So I started seeing him and he knows I`m still married but has serious plans for us. NOw, the problem is should I leave my hb to be with j or not? I really wouldn`t want to hurt nb but I was gonna leave anyway, even if I didn`t meet anyone.

Don`t know what to do!
Help!

Hey hun

hey hun i feel 4 ya it must b hard for ya but at the end if the day ur hb will find out so u mite as well tell or break up with him... and this other guy... if he makes u happy then y not.. goodluck anyways xxx

Be honest

Hi hun,
To be brutally frank I would say you're edging your bets and will hurt a lot of people, your children included by doing so.
If it were me, I would think and think quickly.....you either stay with your hb and forget this other guy, or you may as well own up immediately to your hb, tell him you want to be with this other guy and face the music. Trust me, he will find out eventually, and until he does the charade of a life you are living will effect everyone around you badly...
Irrespective of how your hubby treats you, or the crap relationship you have with him, it is not a passport for you to keep him on hold until you are completely sure about which way to jump. Sorry to sound harsh, but you need to make a decision (by yourself) and then see it through. I don't think any decision will be smooth sailing but hopefully you will be able to see a goal, a future.
Good luck x

yes if ur unhappy

Hey there,
Well I would say yes hun! If u was goin 2 leave anyway then whats stopping u? Ur 3 yr old may have a better future if ur apart as ur hubby may start 2 put him 1st before the drink if u take action.
If u are as unhappy as u say then I would say yes, if u'v given it a go n hubby is drinkin etc then u would be better out of it 4 u n ur son.

Good luck n b happy hun.