Do you think online pursuits are cheating??

I've been married for 11 years and we have five children between us.(Two are mine from a previous relationship).Our marriage has always had its ups and downs as my husband and I are very different in personality and outlooks on life.We've had our moments and have seperated before for a brief time a few years back, but somehow we have always managed to pull through for the sake of the kids and try to make a go of things.
I didn't think my husband was the type to cheat (if there even is such a thing as a "type"), I thought the last year or so we were getting on better than we ever had, (apart from sexually) but that wasn't that important to either of us.
Sooooo imagine my shock and horror when I woke up at 2am the other night to go to the toilet and found him on the computer. He switched it off immeadiately when I came into the room which straight away sent alarm bells ringing. I asked what he was doing and said i'd check the history if he didn't tell me. The truth was even worse than I thought it'd be. I imagined he'd been on porn or webcam girls and that I could maybe accept....turns out he had made up several hidden facebook accounts under different names and had been chatting to Women AND men arranging to meet for sex in hotels and chatting them up...saying how beautiful they were and other stuff. He was on about stuff with men that I wont go into and about dressing up...none of which I knew anything about!!! Gobsmacked is not the word.
I feel really hurt because its been going on over a year and I dont know if he met up with anybody or not. I feel betrayed that he couldn't talk to me, that I thought we were getting on better and all the time he was doing this. That he set about making all these profiles which must have taken some time to do.
He cant understand why i'm so upset!!!!! Neither can my family or his...like its a big deal??!!!! I still think its cheating, whether he has met the other people or not. What do you think????
I'm in two minds as to what to do...stay and start a new life over....or give it another go for the kids. Please someone advise me!!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks xxxx

Hello

Hello Skye36

I have read with interest your post about your husbands exploits and I agree with the comments made by lucky star 41

I know you probably think I should be the last person to comment on this but I am a Male to female TS fully transitioned sometime ago and I certainly dont agree with what your husband was doing, you are better off without him especially after puttting your life at risk, that sort of thing is unforgivable in my eyes.

Go out and find yourself a decent loving caring guy there is someone out there in the owrld for you who will be 100% better than your internet cheating husband.

Take care and good luck
Sophie

Move on!

Honey,
You are seeing him for what he really is - a RAT! GET OUT NOW! Pack your bags and take your kids and run, run, run! He is a loser - end of. He also has zero respect or love for you or he wouldn't have done any of those terrible and quite frankly sickening things in the first place.
In terms of your families, I don't mean to sound disrespectful but they sound like total A-holes! Run while you still can and go find yourself a man that DESERVES you.
Also, as you are married I assume you don't use condoms when you do have intercourse - he has put your sexual health at risk without a second thought.
You deserve more than this, this guy is a grade A loser. Get out while you still can, you're too good for him, keep your self respect and self worth and move on up to better things.
NEVER stay in a relationship for the old "its for the kids" crap, this will be killing you and making you miserable, your kids will notice this silently but not say anything, so overall this will greatly affect your ability to be a good parent. GET OUT NOW! He is a scum bag, and the sooner that you admit that to your self the better. I don't know what your financial situation is, if it isn't great then go stay with friends or relatives that will side with you in this and ignore the ones that don't. If your OWN family can't see what a moron this guy is then you don't need them right now. Honestly, leave and do it now before you depress yourself even more. You deserve more. You deserve to be happy! x x x x