Boyfriend is too understanding and loving

Ahh. I don't know what I am complaining about, but sometimes my boyfriend gets on my nerves because he is TOOOO understanding and caring. Like he doesn't really get jealous, and he's so understanding of people. I dont know how to explain it. But sometimes i just want a guy to wanna beat up a guy if he hits on me and and have some passion. I mean he got jealous because a guy hit on me, but I don't know. But I don't know. He just seems like such a perfect guy and he loves me so much. And sometimes i feel like I'm not as loving and sensitive as him and that makes me feel weird because I am used to the girl being more tender and understanding. But I have more of a fiesty personality so I think we balance eachother out. But sometimes i just want him to lose his temper and get angry. Am i weird?

Too nice

Hi Is he honest with you, do you know where you stand. Does he go behind your back. Is he committed to you? Then if you after commitment maybe he is the one. Are you ready for commitment. If so dont let this one go.. If you are after playing the field then experience different types of men.

I say all this as I was brought up with anger in my family and got used to the drama, the ups and downs and shouting. I used to be attracted to men who was full of drama, anger passionate etc.. I even created drama in a relationship where my man was similiar to yours. I drove him away... and regretted it/

In the end I got tired of all and Im tired of the drama. Look to what you have and write down whats good about both of you.

Are you wanting passion and being up and down all the time as it reminds you what you have with your family? Does he come from a place where he wants to please you all the time to satisfy his needs or does he seem geniune and really want to listen and is confident at the same time. Only you can decide. Lots of questions and food for though!!!!!!!!!!!

You are normal and we all feel different things. I am just talking from experience that Ive had all the feisty relationships and I hate all the ups and downs and I hanker after stability. Yes my current boyfriend is understanding and I used to find it boring but now I realise how better it is to have someone to talk to calmly. All the feistiness had a huge impact on my health and stress levels and it can still do. I do create drama and very aware of it.

Hope this makes sense. Good luck in your relationship whatever you decide. Can you talk to him about how hes feeling. Males also tend to hide their feelings.

Another lesson Ive learnt is that you cannot change anyone unless they want to change. If you are feeling unfilled is he the one for you or can you work at your feelings about him wanting to lose his temper. You sound to have a gem though. its about weighing up where you are in life. An understanding boyfriend goes a long way in the stressful times when you are experiencing downs etc with work., family, friends if you want a long term relationship. Short term passion is fab but not for the long term.

Good luck with wherever you areat

Yahooo...

better in times.....

I am one of the too nice ones?!

i am exactly the same as your fella, and all of you sound similar personalities to my recent girlfriend ( we split up yesterday)

i love her with all my heart, even though she was snappy and demanding and at times intollerable!
i found i over compensated with ehr because she had so much stress in her life i was even nicer!?! too nice apparently at times?!

dont get me wrong i feel jealousy, every man does, but if its caused issues in past relationships for him, he may be trying not to let it now!

please dont push him away for it, use it to work through things together, the balance can work! your temper can impassion him, his calmness bring you back down to earth sometimes?!

we spend a lot of our time wondering what the hell we've done wrong, when we try and be nice, caring etc

I kno w what u mean

im the same, i am in a fairly new relationshio (6months) my last relationship was compltelty different, im sooo fiesty and have a temper or did have, m ex had a temper too and we were like two tigers in a cage always arguing and fighting, he would get physical sometimes too, however it was passionate and when it was good it was really good, however new boyf is just like urs, really NICE and really understanding and cute, not very passionate though, but like u say, tender and caring, its weird feeling i know, but i think if ur feisty like we are then its good to have balance..dont wish for conflict thinking itll bring excitement, i know exactly how u feel though, sometimes u just want to shake things up abit!!xx so.. ur not weird!

Oh no you don't

If you are fiesty and he is the perfect balance for you. My mate is exactly the same, and she would test the patience of a 'normal' man every day ...and then be on her own. I am gobby and more than a bit intolerant..him indoors is like your man. Don't let him go! He is your rock. If you want to have a good old moan, strop, or cry with someone , a girl can offer that.Be thankful he's not a beer seilling, violent oaf...enjoy the safety.
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