No longer horny

I know this topic has come up already (it's the theme of the forum after all!), and I've read a few previous threads, but everybody's situation is different and personal, so I've started my own.

I've been in a relationship over a year with a great guy. For the first 6 months or so we had plenty of sex, and it was the most fun and adventurous sex I've ever had, as my boyfriend took the time and effort to work out what I really like rather than just ask and then give up, and we have similar interests.

However, for the last 6 months I've really lost my sex drive, and just haven't felt horny. We still have sex, but only every 2 or 3 weeks, and I enjoy it, but don't feel horny before or after. Sometimes my boyfriend will try to initiate sex, but I won't feel in the mood and feel really uncomfortable with the thought of sex, almost like I want to hide my bits away and keep them to myself. We are still really affectionate and cuddle up in bed, but don't turn that into sexual antics as much as we used to.

This is really bothering my boyfriend, and I can see he's hurt by it, so I want to sort it out. I know everybody will have peaks and troughs with their sex drive, but I've always been quite into sex so losing my libido is quite unusual and I don't know what to do about it.

So I have a few questions:

How important is it to find the cause, or do we just have to try and find a solution? (I had a few personal problems last year which may have been the cause). Personally, I like to understand why a problem is happening before I try to fix it, otherwise you're always fixing the symptoms and not the actual problem. I have a feeling that just 'trying new things' as I expect some people may suggest, won't be enough.

How *do* we go about pinning down the cause?

Any other advice from people that have been here?

Thanks.

Lipsy is on to something

Nutrition can be the answer as Lipsy experienced.

You can use take remedies that claim to be a magic bullet like the one Lipsy mentioned. L'Arginine is safe and 100% natural but depending on the person it may not provid all of the nutritients needed to restore your natural sex drive.

Using a whole diet approach to ensure that you get all of the nutrients you need to deal with the stresses of life and restore your desire and enjoyment of sex.

The diet is called Easy Orgasm Diet. You can read about here:

http://www.easyorgasmdiet.com/cure-my-sex-drive/

It uses a combination of supplements and diet changes to get rid of the things the kill your libido and restores the nutrients you need for more desire, and enjoyment of sex.

My wife uses it. Not only has it helped her sex drive, she has also lost 10 dress sizes (from a 12 to a 2).

What she likes most about is she has to each chocolate every day!

Sex drive

Clamber

It might be a bit impertinent to ask your age? I am not being rude but I experienced a "dip" in my own libido at around 39-40ish probably due to hormonal changes and the aging process...anyway to cut a long story I kind of new the root cause but wanted to find the solution.
I trawled the internet looking for everything I could find on natural HGH (Human Growth Hoemone)this is what keeps us young and fancy free lol and Natural HRT etc etc.

There was loads to choose from, everything from creams, lotions, potions, herbal remedies and pharmacuticals galore all promising to boost my sex drive....needless to say I spent a fortune and tried most to no avail.

My solution came quite by accident my mum went through a very difficult time with lung cancer and although the cancer had been removed and she was given the all clear she wasn't picking up physically so again I went on the internet during my research (a family joke) I came across an article about Nitric Oxide and an Amino Acid called Arginine there had been loads of clinical trials that proved this amino acid played a part in every major bodily function including male and female sexual impotence, promoted the production HGH in the body and balanced hormone levels.
My research also pointed to the fact most of the Arginine on sale was inferior, in capsule form and would require about 12-18 capsules a day just to get enough into my system and on top of that had not gone through the necessary approvals and mega dosage laws etc etc.
Given that my mum's health was not at it's best I really wanted a product that was easily absorbed, simple to take and safe. I found what I was looking for and it worked for me with my libido problem, probably took about two weeks to kick in before I felt frisky again but the amazing thing is that my hair is shinier and my skin softer mum's energy levels returned very quickly once she was on it and her doctor took her off some of her medication since she no longer needed it. I can't priase the stuff enough the research calls it the miracle molecule and for me it is. Don't take my word for it do the searches yourself and if you want to try it http://www.lookgoodfeelamazing is where I buy it, their product is approved my the US and UK boards.

Cheers, hope this helps and sorry about asking your age if your younger than I was when I had my wee problem appologies.

Lipsy