Is my pill the problem?

Hi, I think this is going to be a bit of a long message, so here goes.
Im 22, have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and at the moment we are arguing like anything. My job is incredibly stressful and I have serious self confidence issues, despite him always giving me reassurance. I wouldnt say im unattractive or anthing like that, Im just highly unconfident.
Basically, for the first couple of years our sex life was fantastic. we were trying all sorts of new things and everything was great. But then, quite quickly everything went downhill. I stopped going on top during sex, I stopped making any sort of effort, and now we have sex probably at most once a fortnight, if that. MY boyfriend has a naturally high sex drive, and I used to love that, but now it seems like a chore, and i more often than not just have sex just to stop us arguing. I know thats not how it should be, but I love him very much and dont want to keep hurting him by rejecting him. I find him attractive, but have never found it very easy to express my feelings. TO be honest, I just cant be bothered to have sex, im not interested, but I really really wish I was! Weve tried sex toys etc, but it doesnt seem to help. He seems to take it as him not being good enough, but i cant stop him thinking that.
I have a feeling that the pill i started taking a few years ago - Cilest- is the problem, but Im not sure if im just hoping that is the answer!
Please can someone give me advice on how to regain my sex drive?! thanks xxx

Same problem!

Hi, I know you posted this nearly a month ago, but hopefully you'll still get my reply. I haven't got the answer to your problem, but i have got the same situation and problem!

I've been with my bf for nearly 6 years and since i went on the pill 2 years in i haven't really been interested in sex. Like you, I just can't be bothered and want it over with. I was taking the microgynon pill, then changed to cilest in the hope it would solve this problem, and bad headaches i was getting. It solved the headache probs but not the sex drive thing. I don't want to come off the pill, coz it's safe, and also convenient to be able to delay periods etc. It's causes no end of arguments/bad feeling, and we're moving in together soon so the pressure to have sex will be on all the more..

Even though neither of us have the answer it'd be nice to chat to someone with the same probs, so message me back if you want to chat! xx

Have you spoken to the doctor about it? I haven't got the nerve, and i'm not sure what they would say except to come off the pill. If you have been i'd be really interested to hear what they've said.

Like you, i have a feeling that the pill is the problem, but i know exactly what you mean about wanting that to be the answer, otherwise the reasons could be far more deep rooted, which is a scary thought! The fact that we are both on cilest has made it seem all the more likely that that could be the problem.