Its normal
for everyone at several points in their lives to have lulls. For example I am 33 married with four children and at the moment I am having a small lull. My lull is not my partners fault, I feel very unhappy with my body just now. He still wants me and loves me and likewise I love him but I know for a fact if Brad Pitt was offering my lull would very soon disapear!!! It is really normal to just not be in the mood, feel to tired, feel disgusted by the thought of it and so on. Try not to worry, you have been in a long relationship and may I say from a very young age. Perhaps you love him but don't really fancy him just now or perhaps (dare I say it) you hormones could be playing havock with you. My sister actually had blood tests done which clearly showed she was lacking hormones. I can only imagine testosterone was one of them.
I often find myself interested after I have been socialising with someone that I fancy and use them to fantasise and in turn my husband gets a very pleasurable evening. There is nothing wrong with it my husband is none the wiser, I still love him, and I'm not actually doing anything wrong. There are lots of reasons and lots of salutions.
Look really hard at your situation, are there financial pressures, housing problems, do you have a weight issue, are you sure you still fancy him because you know it wouldn't be the end of the world if you didn't and aren't likely to in the near future. Have you asked him how he feels, does he still fancy you and has he noticed that either of you have changed. My turning point in my life was when I was 23yrs. I realised how much more to life there is and how to get what I want. Perhaps you are too.
Good luck with your lull and remember your happiness is really important. Best wishes from someone who's been there.
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