Not interested

I stopped being interested in sex towards the end of my pregnancy. I felt fat and ugly! After I had the baby he slept with us so for the 1st month or so we didn't have sex. We moved the baby into his own crib, which is still in our room and I just feel dirty if we had sex in the same room as the baby. We went into another room and I was a little more relaxed about it but now I have just lost interest all together. I know when my Husband wants it and I just wish we would do it and get it over with! I don't even enjoy it like I use too. I don't know what is wrong with me. I think it's because I still feel fat and ugly from not losing all the baby weight, my husband pt on some pounds and he turned down my idea of having another baby (in the future) without allowing a discussion about it. O felt why should he get what he wants when i can't even talk about what I want. He recenly agreed to consider it and I thought that would make me feel better but I am still not interested in sex! How do I get back to enjoying sex again?

Ditto

I am in exactly the same boat as you.
I have a 19 month year old daughter and am pregnant again... which seems to be a miracle considering we do not have sex anymore. I am just not interested, and like you would just wish it was over with when it does happen. I used to have such a healthy libido and now it is gone. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Some other mums I see have had the same problem, and I think it is natural. You have to put these years down to being baby years, and becomme parents together and become close that way. There are other ways if being close without being intimate and your other half will just have to understand that until you are ready.

Most importantly though, there is nothing wrong with you... it is completely normal to feel like this. your body has been invaded and it takes a long time to get over. Maybe years, just relax and do what you need to do.

Don't worry

I've heard it's totally normal to have a low sex drive after pregnancy, but it does start to come back after a while. You're never going to feel like a wanton sex goddess after giving birth but as you get your figure back and settle into being a mum it'll sort itself out!
Neila

Hmm

yea i am having the same problem. I would just rather sleep and when he comes to bed i pretend to be... And while i have my figure back and feel great about myself i just cant seem to get into in any more...