Low libido, need advice
My wife and I have been married for 11 years. We love each other very much, but for almost all of our relationship she has suffered...or more to the point, I have suffered, from her low libido. She has no problem reaching orgasm, usually she has several during sex, so that's not the problem.
Most of the time we have sex only once a month, sometimes twice or at times not at all. I never pressure her for sex as I beleive that it is her body and her emotional attitude and that it should be her decision as to what and when she wants something. I have maintained this attitude throughout our marriage in the hope that maybe change and increased libido will find it's way naturally and through nurturing.
It hasn't. And now that we are into our mid to late 30's I don't see it improving in the future.
I am at the end of my tether, I find myself frustrated and angry. The promise of "forsaking all others, until death do us part" is all that stops me from looking elsewhere, but I am afraid that I am out of patience and that I will only show resentment and callous avoidance towards the woman that means more than anything to me.
I do not want my wife and 18 month old son or our marriage to suffer from a bitter atmosphere in our house just because of something as simple as sex.
What can I do?
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