We don't have sex

I have been married for nearly 7 years, we have 3 young children.

My husband is a lovely man, wonderful father and husband, I couldn't ask for more. He adores me and always wants us to be intimate but I do not want to have sex, I am recently questioning myself, do I not fancy him or do I have no libido???

I just do not feel that way towards him, there is no spark. I love him adn we are best friends but the thought of us having sex is abit strange. When we do do it which is not very often (its been about 6 weeks now) I usually have to have a few glasses of wine, I feel awful admiting that.

He is not an ugly man or anything but I just don't feel that way towards him now I don't think.

Is this just my libido or is our marriage doomed? My poor husband deserves better than this, he wants us to be intimate but I push him away. He says he will never cheat but he wants us to be close. Its been like this for about 3 years.

Not wanting sex

WELL I AM THE SAME AS YOU BUT I AM A MAN AND I ADORE MY WIFE I LOVE SO VERY MUCH BUT ABOUT 2 WEEKS AGO WE HAD A ROW WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 35 YEARS 30 YEARS WED SEE SAYS SHE NO LONGER LOVES ME AND HAS ASKED FOR A DIVORCE I MISS HER SO MUCH BUT I FEEL IT HAS HURT HER SO MUCH ME NOT WANTING SEX I REALLY FEEL THIS IS WHATS THE PROBLEM SO IF I WAS YOU REALLY THINK HARD GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR AND TELL HIM WHATS WRONG WITH YOU.

I CAN ONLT THINK THIS HAS BEEN EATING AWAY AT HER FOR MONTHS DONT MAKE MY MISTAKE I LOVE HER SO VERY MUCH AND WANT HER BACK BUT I FEEL I HAVE LOST HER FOR GOOD

You are describing me

i have the same prbl, you re describing my life except i only have one child, and i would love to have more. but my problem gets into it. what have u done if you resolved your problem. he is running out of patience.

I think i can help.

What you describe is not that uncommon. You and your husband deserve an active and satisfying love life.

Your posting here shows your desire to make things better. The good news is you can and fairly easily.

You said it has been about 3 years that its been like this. What changed 3 years ago?

Are you using the Pill or other form of homonal contraception?

Answer those questions to start with.

Ive been there

hi there i understand ur position my partner of 9 yrs had an accident with his arm 4 yrs ago and evrything to do with our sex life changed and we never got it back we split up a while ago but remain friends but just dont seem to want me in that way anymore and i tried hard and tried lots of diff things going away for romantic weekends but nothing so im on my own now but i am happier because i made myself very ill with depression thinking there was something wrong with me he now says he dont get erections as many times as a man should but he wouldnt go to doctors kept saying he would but u have to talk and sort it out dont let it fester gd luck

Sorry about your situation

i have been there was married 19 years, at bed time i would make excuses to get out of sex.i just did not want it with him .in the end we split due to him cheating.it was when i was single i realised i did not love him i only cared about him .i thik that had a a lot to do with my feelings towards sex. i also have 3 children.now tables have turned, iam with a new bf now he dont want sex . alam bells are ringing lol