Low sex drive connected to what exactly??
I am 35 year old woman and have been married to someone for 3 years. We had amazing sex together for the first 2 years. Over the last year or so, our sex life has waxed and waned a little. We've been under a lot of pressure which has, only just recently, lifted. I don't have a problem with lubrication (kisses from my husband always does the trick) and I climax really easily under his touch.
Problem is, and I feel like I'm making up problems and kinda hate myself for doing so, we have fallen into a pattern. He makes me climax by touching me and then he climbs on top or I climb on top and he climaxes. He wants to pleasure me and assumes that if he does this with his hands or his mouth, that I'm fine and now it's his turn. I kinda resent this. I can make myself climax if I sit on top of him but then he just kinda watches I resent giving him a peep show. Oh I don't know! Even writing this down makes me feel rubbish about it. Whenever he cuddles me or massages me, I know that in the end he will want sex with me. I just feel like he cuddles me for one reason only. He is a man with a strong sex drive. I just want to want him again. Right now if I never had sex again it would be too soon.
I wonder if all of this is to do with my hormones. I have water retention alot which makes my boobs sore. I take plenty of exercise because I am a personal trainer and have a good fit body that I like. I treat myself well.
Any advice gratefully appreciated. I've been bottling this up for too long.
Thanks.
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