Ladies please help me, i need your advise!!!

My girlfriend, who i love dearly has lost her sex drive almost completely. She is in her late 20s and i am in my early 30s and would be considered very healthy and attractive. We met at the start of the year and fell madly in love. Just before we met she had to undergo a procedure to remove pre cancerous cells from her cervix, this procedure has drastically reduced her ability to get wet and it now affects us greatly when trying to initiate sex. In the early days i often asked why her drive was so low; did she not find me attractive or was there some other reason.... After months of talking uncomfortably about it, it has now become a sticky subject. I cant initiate anything and she has made it quite clear that she must do the initiation only!!! the problems is she never initiates anything... She has admitted to me that she has lost her sex drive and she cant help it. Her doctor said she may have to have another procedure, maybe in a years time, so it leaves the whole issue just hanging over our heads. We are both in the prime of our lives and should be delighted to express our love in the physical sense just as much as any other. I am deeply concerned that this loss of drive will be a permenant thing rather than a temporary one. Im at my wits end trying to figure out what is best way to approach the issue in a sensitive but effective way. I love her very much and if it wasnt for an almost non existent sex life i would be happy to get down on one knee.... Please please give me you female perspective on this....

Am a woman

well i know how she feelsi was like that i had a op down there and i was ssssssooooooooo scared 2 have sex kept telling the other half at the time i could hav sex as i had thrush but i didnt just so he would leave me alone . just 1 night i got in fae work had a hot bath and OH asked if he could rub my neck and back and all the soft touching was great got so much goose bumps with all the forplay i jumped on him but clamed up after a few nights we did it again and to my shock i was like a rabbit he didnt keep up with me and i noticed after the op i feel lots more down below and i can cum 2 fast at times ooooppppssss
the other thing might be she is scared she dont feel the same down there and u might be put off and leave her

soz not much help but try x

Dont worry

well first of all let me say how lucky she is to have someone so conciderate, its understandable that she will feel awkward its an invasive procedure and in an area which will leave her feeling sensitive both physically and mentally, time will no doubt heal this, and im sure that you being there and supporting her will help, just keep on waiting and im sure that in the end everything will be ok

Awwwww

how sweet are you?

i had a friend who had breast cancer and had to have one of them removed.
she said that this was very depressing and made her feel (for want of a better word) "incomplete"

time to deal with is is probably waht she needs most and you harping on isnt gonna help

basically i think you need to make her feel like a woman, romance her, woo her, but not necessarilly seduce her.
if you can let her know how much you want her and support her, without it having to lead to sex, then it might cheer her up and let her know that you love her.

i suggest cooking her a candle lit dinner, (if you can re-create your first date it will earn you extra man points!!) running her a hot bath, then set up the bedroom for a sensual massage, candles, flowers on the bed etc.

let her know that she is still the girl you fell in love with

xxxxxxxxxx