Weird one

Basically, me and my best friend got very VERY drunk on saturday night. We started messing around and we ended up doing everything but. When I woke up in the morning and there was blood dotted all over my sheets, and when I went to the toilet it was coming out for like 3 hours afterwards. I didn't start my period so I think it might have been the hymen? I've never had sex before, but I didn't have sex with him that night either, and I was just wondering if he could have gotten carried away and broken it with his fingers?

Also, there was a point where he was teasing me with his penis and he put literally about 3cm into me and it was just the most painful thing ever. I'm actually quite scared that my first time is going to hurt a rediculous amount. I mean I'm only 18 so I'm not in any massive rush, but I just don't want to have sex for the first time and for it to be excruciatingly painful

Any comments or anything would be appreciated loads.

xxxxx

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news hun....

sorry to be the bearer of bad news hun but if he's had it in there (even just 3cm) then im afraid your not a virgin anymore!!
its really easy to break your hymen and often it can get broken just by doing sports n stuff. it shouldn't hurt tho or bleed a really large amount and certainly not for 3 hours!! there should only be a very small amount of blood. also if you were nervous/tense and not very lubed up or wet when he entered you then it can hurt because of that but sex shouldnt generally be painful at any time wether its first or 50th time!!! x x x

Don't worry

Firstly well done on not losing your virginity at the age of 18.
Ok your friend might have torn your hymen but that does not mean you are not a virgin as there was no intercourse.
Secondly I was also terrified that sex would be very painful. I lost my virginity at 16 and if you are relaxed enough and your partner is gentle. It will not hurt. its only if you tense up (which is understandable) it will be uncomfortable and the more you think it will be painfull the more tense you will be.
sounds a bit icky but try exploring your own body either with your fingers or invest in a vibrator and get used to the feeling of something being inside you (when you are ready of course).
My first time I was very tense until my partner took things very slow and before i knew it I was actually enjoying it.
I am not with him anymore but was for 4 years. I am now 29 with 2 kids hehe and this is the advice I will give my girls when they grow up,
Above all hun. don't ever be pushed into something you don't want to do and be safe x x x