He cant/wont have sex?

I am a 38 yr old widow. My husband died 2 years ago. Prior to his death we had some problems because he was impotent. This made things hard on our marriage, mostly because he never really tired to compensate for things ,(he didnt touch me or try to satisfy me in any way, even tho he could not perform sexually)

Well I am finally seeing some one after 2 years of grieving I decide to try to start over with a guy who I think is very nice.

Problem is, I have been seing him now for 5 months, he told me early on that he had not been with a woman in 10 years(since his divorce) well we have fooled around a bit , and it seems he cannot perform sexually..he is hard but not enough to penetrate. So he does other things to compensate, which at first I was ok with, however, I really dont know if I can go thru this whole "cant perform" thing again.
I have been thru alot, and life is short but I am a bit torn now as I dont want to hurt him, yet I am really not willing to deprive myself either

Wow not again.

well fi you are honest with each other which he was with you then maybe you shhould tell him about your marriage and how your husband not being able to perform left you feeling as though you were not sexualy inticing to him, let him know that if he is having priblems in this department that you are willing to seek out the help with him that he needs.

My husband

My husband is 40 yo and uses Extagen to be sexually active. He had some probs with erection before he started taking these pills, but now he hasn't. At least I don't notice that he has any probs.

Seek medical advice

Could you go along to a doctor together? There could be a medical or therapy solution that will help him "perform"