sorry to hear you are argueing, men are funny creatures and dont discuss feelings, often they have feelings like sadness and it is expressed through anger (a lot of men find it difficult to be sad as it doesnt provide or produce anything) men need to be the provider and make things right and his anger will be directed at both you and himself. I know my oh went through angry phases after m/c's thankfully I got him to have a cry and get rid of some of it but it depends on the machoness of the man, have you ever read men are from mars, women are from venus, its very enlightening!!!!! hope things get better for you, lots of dust *** rach xxx

hi all
well i just need a moan.me and db are just not gettin on sincce i had my m/c.the slightest thing we argue over.just had another big massive argument and now his sat in the yard and me in here.i just dont no whats wrong,his gettin personal now thou i mean im not the perfect size and i am over weight but loads,but i dont eat so its not as thou im piggin out all day.i mean his not so perfect his self.when i was preg it was all good,then we found out id lost it n ever since everythings been arguments.he bogs of out every sunday 2 pool i dont mind,but im stuck in the house 24-7,oh my weekly thing is gettin the shoppin in.things have never been so bad and,even after the eptiopic it was newt like this.i really dont no what to do i do love him but theres 2 kids here.sorry for the whinge
l;inzi xxx

I no what you mean. After my last m/c me and hubby were falling out loads and It was really getting met down. We never argued that much ever before so I was so upset then one day I sat down and said to him we need to talk about whats going on as I can not carry on living like this. I suggested I went to stay with my parents for a few days till we dedcided what to do. But this scared the hell out of him and since then we have talked about everything. He admitted that he was worried incase it was his fault that we had 3 m/c and was worried as we were having tests done about the results. Once we talked things through we got back to our normal selves. I no this might not be the answer for you but sometimes just talking about how you feel really helps.
Men often just get on with life and try to hide there emotions.
Hope you are ok. I hate falling out with oh so i'm sure you are fed up with it all.
Sorry for long reply.
Vic xxx

when my oh is fed up or down he doesn't speak he just goes moody and quiet. This happened yesterday and i kept asking him and he refused to say anything. I then got upset, thinking it was something to do with me but then eventually got it out of him and it was something entirely different...arrgghhh!
I know it's easier said than done but is there anyway you can sit down with him and chat about how he's feeling? He sounds like he's hurting but instead of doing what we sensible girls do and having a chat he's bottling it up and taking it out on you and then prob feels bad for doing that and then feels worse, a vicious circle. Is there anything you can do together, go for a nice meal or something?
Hope you can clear the air a bit x x x

sorry to hear you are argueing, men are funny creatures and dont discuss feelings, often they have feelings like sadness and it is expressed through anger (a lot of men find it difficult to be sad as it doesnt provide or produce anything) men need to be the provider and make things right and his anger will be directed at both you and himself. I know my oh went through angry phases after m/c's thankfully I got him to have a cry and get rid of some of it but it depends on the machoness of the man, have you ever read men are from mars, women are from venus, its very enlightening!!!!! hope things get better for you, lots of dust *** rach xxx

aaw, sorry to hear things are not good. might be an idea for you two to sit down and av a chat. tell him how you are feeling and you might find that he may have things on his mind too. if you open up to him and tell him exactly whats going on in your head he might find it easier to open up more. once you both know how each other is feeling,u might find it easier to help each other rather that be ratty with each other.
after my ectopic, me and dp argues a lot to the point where we split and he moved back to his mums, but after a bit of time apart and a lot of talking we get on a lot better now and he moved back in.
hope all goes well
tc
sarah xxx