Hi everyone, i have just found this website and reading everything said about pregancy by people in a simular situation to me i really need some friendly advice.

I'm 19 and just found out that i am pregnant.... again. I was 18 when i first fell pregnant unplanned and had no signs, so i was totaly unaware. but unfortunately i had a miscarriage around 16 weeks and vowed i didnt want to get pregnant after something that bad happening to me, anytime soon. me and my boyfriend were in total grief and despair!

I have recently found out that i am pregnant again with a home pregnancy test and once again me and my boyfriend are in obvious shock as again it was unplanned.

But i am now in a situation where is am torn between what to do!! i cant bear the thort of having a termination :'(, but im thinking me with a baby!?! is that really what i want!! i guess im in a good situation with a full time job, money coming in, but its also the fact that if i do want to keep it, telling my mum is the most scary thing ever. she was extremely supportive over my misscarriage, but its still a very frightening thing to tell your parents when only 19!

xxxx

Hello Nicole,

I am in the same boat as you, I am 21 and have been irresponsible to be honest. I did a test last night and it was positive I am in complete shock and really really dont know what to do. You sound like your in a steady relationship and it seems like last time you were pregnant you were happy and were going ahead with it.. what has changed this time around? I can understand that you are scared about telling your mum, as am I, mine is a midwife too!! I think you should tell her get some good advice but always remember to make your own decision. My boyfriend and I have only been together 8 months he is 30 and said he is not ready for a child. However this morning he said he would support me whatever I decide...? Im confused scared and just dont know what to do, my mum is gonna be really pissed off with me and I know she will think it best that I have a termination. My curcumatances are that Im living with my brother, we bought a house last November and have a mortgage together, I have to think about him too, my job pays well and so does my partners but still... I dont know!!! xx

Thankyou so much for your reply. We are in a very simular situation, but right now my head is just completely confused.

I keep asking myself can I do this? Is this really happening to me?

Last time I was pregnant I didn't even know until I miscarried and that was at 16 weeks. Me and my partner were completely heartbroken.

But just as I type me and my partner are going strong, things have recently turned sour. Not at all because of this pregnancy because he assuresme he will stick by me whatever I decide although he isn't ready for a baby.

Telling my mum... well what can I do? How will I tell her? How will her and my family react? I don't even know what I am doing yet but I no she would be supportive considering she was when she found out about my miscarriage. Icouldnt even bring myself to tell her that... she found out a month later!!!

x x