I don't fear child-birth; why does everyone else?
Is fear of child-birth a 'normal' thing? Is it instinctive, or is this common fear a product of modern society? I can't say for sure, but I personally don't think it is instinctive. I can honestly say, I do not fear going into labour. This fact seems to set me apart from most first-time mothers, and can make it hard for me to relate to other pregnant women.
I used to think that perhaps, when I was very close to my due date, I would become frightened of childbirth. With 9 weeks to go, I remain fearless still. What could be more natural than bringing offspring into the world? Every living creature does it; in fact the existence of every organism on earth depends on it.
To me, the hospital setting seems pretty unnecessary for a full-term birth. Although I will be giving birth in a maternity unit this October, I think I would prefer a home birth if I ever become pregnant again. If I still lived in America, I would demand a home birth for my first child as well.
Many people (especially Americans) will consider you mad for considering a home birth. They act as if you are suggesting an 'at home' kidney transplant. I think it is a terrible shame that child birth (and pregnancy for that matter) is treated like a health problem or clinical disorder in America.
My American grandmother had 9 children, one of which was delivered by my cowboy grandfather (using calf-pulling techniques, no doubt). My British grandmother had four children, two of which she basically delivered by herself, in a small croft down a single-track road. Perhaps their experiences give me strength?
My British grandmother will be with me during the birth. She's a very strong peerie wife, and I think her presence will re-assure me more than any doctor. In many ways, she inspires me and gives me strength. I'm so lucky to have her.
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