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Over 40
Hi im 39 and will be 40 in june, am 8 weeks with my first and have major worries about the risks, but everyone seems to say not to be to worried as lots of women are having kids later. Will be glad once ive had my first scan and whatever tests they recomend.
Tx
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Pregnant over 40
Don't let anyone tell you that you are high risk based on age alone. I am 45, no preexisting health conditions, and my pregnancy has been completely trouble free. I am 25 weeks pregnant with a daughter, due June 20.
Good luck!
Melissa
USA 
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Still in shock!
I am 42 and just had a positive test, my partner is 53 and we had given up all hope! I have three children from a previous relationship, 16,15 & 8.
I find myself having to refer back to books as I am to a little worried about risks but take comfort in friends both in their late forties who have just had their second healthy bouncing boy.
With my first two I sailed through blissfully ignorant of any risks. While I think it is good to be informed you can be tempted into overobsessing it is about finding a balance and I gather from my friends having the strength to make your own informed decisions.
I too will be off to the doctors where I am sure I will hear about the tests to follow but as my partner reminds women having been popping out babies in the paddy fields of China for centuries without clinics and scans.
I think the thing is to stay positive and enjoy this time, with my past 3 easy pregnancies I stayed fit and healthy and more importantly positive and just enjoy each day at a time.
I too am about 5 weeks and probably due at the end of October.
Good luck
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41 still trying
well thats great news ! i am 41 and still breastfeeding my 3 year old so cycle has not returned yet weaned him off last week slowly hoping for another baby but it might be to late i not sure ? x x xgood luck lots of sticky glue to you x
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41 still trying
well thats great news well done to yuo both x x x x x
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Hello to you
i am 36 nearly 37 i am 9 weeks preggs im also diabetic not gestational propper i also worrie about my age but my midwife assures me women are much older now days and not to worrie. i cvant find no one of my own age to chat to so if your interested reply to my msa look forward to hearing from you. claire ps dont worrie about anything.
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Me to
Hi claire i hope you dont mind me sending you a message but i have just seen your post i to had my first baby at 37 and have had diabetes since being 20 i have now just found out i am pregnant again at the age of 41 so its back to the rounds of antenatal and diabetic care hope everything is going well for you
michele
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Hiya
hello im sarah, im 36 nearly 37 well will be in sept, im 15 weeks pregnant and looking forward to it, hope to chat to you soon hugs sarah xx
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Saw your message and thought thank god !!!!
Hi there, I'm Kate and I'm 37 and trying for my 4th baby . I was so pleased when I saw your message , because I too have been looking for someone our age who is having or trying for a baby. I feel quite alone about this, as hubby and I have decided not to tell anyone untill we're pregnant and all tests are back and we know we're good to go .So if you would like we can keep in touch and keep each other going . Let me know cheers for now Kate
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The small blue line
Kate, Hope you don't mind me emailing. Found out this morning that am pregnant. Am 40 and it all feels surreal. I have three children, 12, 9 and 7. I always wanted another one...I am from 4 and there always seemed to be one missing! I have loved every moment of being pregnant, having babies and watching my babies grow....most definitely the best thing I have ever done. Hubby always said no for financial reasons and the thought of giving up his Alfa Romeo! I have just applied to do a PGCE due to start in Sept....supposed to be my new future etc....but I love babies.....am so broody and feel very much that this is my little last chance miracle. My mum died 3 years ago and I don't have anyone close to me that's in the same boat. Most of my friends have had their children and will probably be flabbergasted. Your words just caught my eye because I do feel very alone with this. Would you give me your thoughts?
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The thin edge of the wedge
Your message caught my eye as I to have 3 and just pregnant with my forth, the first three though were from previous marriages, I have finally found a wonderful man who has always been desperate to have his own and we are very happy. However I am terrified of telling my mother she really disapproves and only had me as she was never very maternal. I am really sorry your mum is not here with you but if she was I am sure she would be really happy for you. I have not told too many people yet as it is early days but already the response is interesting!
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Older mums
Hi, I'm 39 and 17 weeks pregnant, this will be my 3rd child. It's harder this time as I'm more concerned about my age and the risk of downs syndrome. I've just had an amnio and now need to wait for the results. I've not told any family or friends as I don't want to get too excited in case things go wrong.
Whatever happens I'm grateful for the 2 healthy children I've got and although your life will change significantly there are moments and things that they say/do that will remain with you as a mum forever.
The worst thing about healthcare today and particularly pregnancy is everything they scare you with about what not to do, what not to eat, and what could go wrong! Pessimists or realists you decide.
Try to remember it is a very special time in your life and try to enjoy it, enjoy being pregnant and when the time comes enjoy being a mum, there's plenty of time to worry when they get older!!
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Trying at 39
Hello, you have given me encouragement to persevere and keeping trying. I only just recently got married and I have one son by my first marriage. Currently, my husband has no kids and we have been trying for a year now. I have heard so many negative stories and health risks about being a older mother but reading your story has given me hope! Thank you.
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43 and think i am pregnant!
Hi, I have just come across this forum as i was searching frantically for over 40 and pregnant advice. I too am pregnant and 'older' and it will be my 3rd child. I am really worried about all the usual things that could be wrong-miscarriage, defects, etc but if all goes well i am really looking forward to this birth. I am only 6 weeks so far and despite 2 positive tests i cannot believe it! My children are both alot older. Yes I agree it is a very special time.
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Dont worry
it is understandable that you are a bit anxious about having a first baby whatever your age.I am 42 and had my 4th baby at 41 and I guess I was worried about things too even though i had been through it before.
Just make sure that you have a good midwife who makes youfeel happy about the whole thing ,dont be afraid to ask questions and have all the necessary tests to reassure you.If you can and this is really hard first time around take as much control as you can when it comes to the birth do what you feel is right.
Having a baby is a fantastic experience that can be difficult and involve all sorts of changes that you are not prepared for.
Enjoy it and then enjoy your baby.for me ,its the most wonderful and fulfilling thing and if I was a bit younger I would go for a 5th!
Hope that it all goes well Good luck.
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I am 39...
Will be 40 in May, I am currently 38 weeks pregnant. I also met hubby late, & after a few years of marriage decided to start a family I went off the pill - to no periods, for a year. I finally went to dr. who diagnosed PCOS, basically hormones & ovulation not working, he sorted out and after a couple of years Voila! Baby girl due in less than 2 weeks!
The biggest worries for me was the risk of downs syndrome. I didn't have an amniocenticis as all the tests (nuchal fold, blood tests etc) inidcated low risk (same risk as if I was in my early 20s) but of course the risk is still there.
Other than that - I've been blessed with a wonderful life so far with lots of 'solo' experiences - will be very interesting to see how life is with a child! My main passion is riding and competition will be interesting with a small baby in tow, but lots of people do it so I am sure I will find a way (I definately have the will).
But I am purposely keeping whatever happens after the the baby is born in the next 2 weeks a 'blank slate' - I don't want to have any expectations, I want to go with the flow and let it all unfold. As it will anyway!!!
Good luck to you.
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1st time at 40
Hi.
Congratulations!!
You must be soo excited!
I was 40 in April, got Married in May and found out for def this morning that I'm Pregnant.
Phew!!
We're excited, happy, scared, worried, every emotion you can imagine.....
Is too soon to see my GP??
Do I have the test's that will be offered??
One thing I am looking forward to, is having a cleavidge. Hoorahh!! At long last!
Hope your enjoying your new daughter.
Big Hugs. X
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Tv programme- the wright stuff
Hello,
I am an Assistant Producer for the channel Five TV programme The Wright Stuff. We are going to be doing a piece on the show about First Time Mums who are over 40. The show is discussion based so it would be great if any new mums out there are interested in telling us their stories. The aim is to look at what life is really like for older mums. Do you have a tougher time? Would you recommend waiting to have a child? Have you experienced any different treatment because of their age?
My contact number is 0207 985 1718 and my email is barbara.ocallaghan@princesstv. com. If you are interested please contact me asap.
Best wishes and thanks for your time,
Barbara
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