Hiya all

I posted a few weeks ago saying that I had a missed miscarriage which ended in quite a bad miscarriage eventually (hospital admission etc). Anyway Im really reluctant to try again. Im 38 so time is not on my side. Does anyone else feel like this or have any advice? Thanks in advance x

I'm recently 30 and I miscarried Sept. 4. this was my second pregnancy. I have a son about to turn 7. I thought I was ready to experience a child with age and wisdom on my side. I was young and learned the hard way with him.
I was devastated when I miscarried, I still am. The doctor said we could try again after one cycle. and I thought great. but inside I'm screaming what if it happens again!? can I do it again?
it's completely normal to worry, but I have no good or right answers for you, I wish I did for both our sakes.

Christyna

had my missed miscarriage last noveember and have really struggled this last 10 months emotionally, but finally feeling a bit more like my old self, think that;s to do with us trying again. we've only been trying a month or so and so far nothing to report, however i am realy scared in a way more about that dreaded first scan when and hopefully we do get pregnanat again, i know there meant to keepmore of an eye on you after you've had any kind of miscarriage but in a way i don't want thatjust incase the same thing happens again i know i can't delay the inevitable if it were to happen again, but i just don't want to have to go for that scan !
anyway we'll wait and see what happens to be honest i'm trying not to think of us "trying" as i don't want to make it such a big thing only to be disappointed every month until hopefully we finally do get pregnant.
do what feels right for you and look after yourself.
take care
love laura x

Hi

I had a missed miscarriage 4 weeks ago & although i had a d&c with no complcations i can understand how you feel. We've felt that the miscarriage has really taken its toll on us & that we need to get ourselves back to being just us again before we even think about trying again. At the time i thought that as soon as i can we should start trying again but i didn't realise how much the loss would affect me. Your emotions (And hormones) are probably all over the place still & if you give yourself enough time to heal emotionally & physically then you might feel differently.

This site has really helped me & is a great place to go to for advice or just a chat,

Hope everything works out for you

Sall x

hi,

I had 2 late miscarriages, one last and one this year in April. The second time I was very careful not to do anything wrong while I'm pregnant (eating properly, stop exercising - just walking) and somewhere deep inside I was always scared what if it happened again.and it did. Now Im physically ready to get pregnant again, but physiologically Im not sure. On one side I want to be pregnant so much again, on the other Im terrify what if...

I know the best will be to think positive and not to concede any failure, but its just harder that it sounds

Good luck to all.

I've had 2 miscarrigaes in the last year, the first one had me admitted to hospital as I was bleeding very heavily and in a great deal of pain, it took 2 weeks for the bleeding to stop. The second happend over 2 days. After the first one it took me a few months to feel ready to try again, I was terrified that I'd lose it. Unfortunately when I did catch, I lost that one at 6 weeks. I was devastated however this time I felt more determind than ever that I was going to have the baby that we want so much, we got straight back on the horse.

We are trying again, it is a very tense time. I am due my AF on friday and hoping that it wont happen. I It is really hard to pick yourself up after a miscarriage, all kind of emotions begin to consume you. You feel a lost, empty, a faliure. The fact is, miscarriage is unfortunately very common - it's part of the crulest cycle. Just because you have lost one baby, it doesnt mean you'll lose the next. If you dont feel ready then give yourself some time, to grieve and to get stronger again. You will, just dont rush yourself. When you feel ready and relaxed enough to start thinking about it again you'll no.

I wish you all the luck in the world and Ihope you find yourself feeling stronger and happier soon.


Sarah. xx

Hi,

I'm trying again but have had 3 miscarriages. Excited that we have decided to try again (took me a good couple of years to get over the last miscarriage) but feeling scared at the same time as not sure I could cope with miscarrying again.

Have a very unsympathetic Employer who is trying to force me to do the most stressful job in the department which woul dput me at risk of violence. Have explained that I am trying for a baby again and really don't feel like I could cope with the stress but they don't care.

Say they do a risk assessment but can't explain why they didn't do one for me when I lost my last baby.

Some people just don't understand how traumatic it is to have a miscarriage.

Dont think of trying just think of it as fun it will take the ease of off the both of you
good luck and have fun
Lisa