Vic

I too am in your situation. After trying for a baby for the first time ever we found out I was pregnant in January and we were over the moon. I went to 12 weeks but had an incomplete miscarriage. We then left it a while and went on holiday etc and tried again two months ago. Again I fell pregnant right away and had it confirmed last month. When you miscarry once you expect the second to be ok - you've been told that once is just bad luck everything will be fine the next time. yeah right. I felt more pregnant this time, had no pain, no spotting, we were elated! They gave me an early scan just as a precaution at 6 weeks and told me that I was likely to miscarry in the next few days as my hormone levels were dropping. Sure enough I did...once is bad luck, twice come on! They're going to do some small tests but say they're 99% certain it's just bad luck - what have I done to deserve so much bad luck....all I want is a chance....!

L xx

Hi there everyone.
I am new to this site.
I had a m/c in August 2007 and was totally deverstated, I could not beleive it. I was 8 and a half weeks but didn't find out till I was 10weeks.
Me and my husband decided we really wanted to try again straight away but listened to all the doctors and waited till I had a normal period the following month before trying again.
I was really pleased when I found out at the begining of October that I was pregnant again I was so happy and thought this time everything will be fine.
I was very anxious but tried not to worry I started with some pain last wednesday and went to see the doctor who sent me for a scan. To cut a long story short they kept me in hospital until last night after doing several blood tests to check my hormone levels as they suspected an eptopic pregnancy but let me home last night telling me it was another miscarriage. I am totally deverstated yet again and can not belive I am back in the same boat. I was only 5 and half weeks but I am going through all the emotions yet again and hoped that writing on this page might help me.
Thanks for listening.
Vic xx

"Oh babe i know how you feel too "

I also had a M/C on 30th aug 07 i was 7 weeks when i found out but 8 weeks when i had the D&C then found out i was pregnant again on 10th nov i have just got to 5wks and yes i'm loosing mine now it's soooo very cruel that woman have to go through all these emotions are hormones are all over the place. Are you going to try again??? We are as they won't investigate why i could be loosing them until i have had 3 consecutive losses so i thought hey we'll try again and hope not to lose it but if we do then at least they will do something about it.

We are all here for you too
take care
jamie xxx

Hi Jamie

I am really scared to try again do's have said to wait now till at least Jan but all I want is to be pregnant again. I had a few tests done because I asked for them. Only the early ones like Lupas so just waiting for second testing but first ones came back fine - all doc's say there is no reason why I m/c just bad luck - really not sure about waiting 3 months they say its to give my body a rest but making me more anxious waiting I think. What do you think??? Thanks for writing. First day back to work today too really nervous. Thanks Vic xx

It is amazing how advise for Doctors varies so much. I had my first miscarriage in Aug 07 at 5 weeks. We then found out in September that we were pregnant again. I felt so much more positive and had loads more symptons. I started bleeding at 10 weeks and found out the baby had died at 7.5 wks. I had a d&c but the doctors have only advised waiting until I have a normal period before trying again.

We are now back in the baby making saddle so to speak. I have been taking some extra vitamins and minerals to try to help and I am pretty nervous as well as excited. I suppose I just feel if it is meant to be it will.If my body is ready to get pregnant then it will.

Being positive is important,but I do totally understand how scary it is.

Love Nicki x

The doc said I should wait as my body needs time after two m/c in 3 months but Then in the next breath they are saying that its mentally they tell you to wait as you need time in your head to get things together and deal with it all. But really I think how ever long you leave it it does not get any easier. If I was to m/c for a third time it won't make it any easier if it happenend next week or in 3 months time. Sorry to ramble on but I just want a baby and feel frustrated by having to wait. I think too if your body is not ready you won't get pregnant.
Thanks for chatting always makes me feel better as I know you all understand.
Fingers crossed for us all hey.
First day back was better than I thought.
Thanks again. Vic xx

Vic,

I have only found this site tonite, having another bad day. I know how it feels truley, have had 25 failed pregancys myself, the support system out their is very bad, so find strength in sites like this and your hubby, do not push him away.

Take time out from the baby bit, enjoy each other, and give yourself sometime.

What the "experts" dont say is normally what you need to know. Go to your GP ask for a referal to your hospitals gyni they can test you and your hubby to ensure their is no underling cause like blood group clashing, as if it is that easy they can help.

BUT please give yourself time

Im really sorry to here your news, i also know how hard it is we are all here for you keep your chin up.I found it alot better to talk to people who have had the same happen to them . Big hugs to you xxxx

Vic

I too am in your situation. After trying for a baby for the first time ever we found out I was pregnant in January and we were over the moon. I went to 12 weeks but had an incomplete miscarriage. We then left it a while and went on holiday etc and tried again two months ago. Again I fell pregnant right away and had it confirmed last month. When you miscarry once you expect the second to be ok - you've been told that once is just bad luck everything will be fine the next time. yeah right. I felt more pregnant this time, had no pain, no spotting, we were elated! They gave me an early scan just as a precaution at 6 weeks and told me that I was likely to miscarry in the next few days as my hormone levels were dropping. Sure enough I did...once is bad luck, twice come on! They're going to do some small tests but say they're 99% certain it's just bad luck - what have I done to deserve so much bad luck....all I want is a chance....!

L xx

Yes once is bad luck, twice well, I know, now had 25 m/c the tests tell them answers, but make sure they tell you the truth, they did not me and hubby nearly lost me, blood trasfusion, itu, lost weeks of my life, now years. My last was 2001, I was in my 20s now im a wreck, and it was the hospital losing those important details at time of pregancy.

Get the tests, make them tell you the truth, and keep a copy yourself if their is somthing that can be done to help you get your baby. Good luck. Hope you get their!!!!!!

hugs missinglitleons

I know its very hard have been back for more blood tests today and my hormone levels are only dropping slowly - booked in for D and C tomorrow but don't want to go. So cancelled till next week just want to try and let it happen naturally.
Really scared as I don't no what is the best thing to do.
We have to stay positive that it will happen for us. I spoke to a doctor today who said that having 2 m/c does not give you any less chance - although they did say that after one.
Knowing that there are others out there makes me feel better as you feel like you are the only one going through all this pain.
Thanks for all your support, chatting here really helps.

its so sad when this happens, you think things are to be ok the next time and it happens again, i know exactly how your feeling. ive had my 5th m/c last month and the emotions are still there, it is getting better but i feel so sad all the time. i know it will happen and it will for you too, try and stay positive. the way i get through it is think of other people who are worse off. my friend has just lost her 11yr old son in an walking accident and i think of her now and how and what is going on in her mind and how she is feeling. its so sad to have know this lovely boy and brought him up for 11 years for him to be taken away so sudden. sorry if this sounds harsh but thats how i get to my next day and it does help
keep your chin and cry when you need to, i do every day. take care y x

thanks for your message. Did you have any tests to check for problems? The doctors said that 2 m/c is still classed as normal and will only do tests after 3 in a row.
They said something about testing for something that I think was called lupus???? Any ideas?
I no it will happen one day and it will for you too, I'm just scared to try again because the hurt is so bad.
Good luck. xx

your right they will only do tests after 3 which is such a hard thing to wait for.
i had the test for the lupus, they call it sticky blood, it means your blood is to thick, which i tested positive for. i started taking aprin with my third pregnancy as i went private after my 2nd as couldnt wait for it to happen again. i started the asprin but i m/c again. i had another test which i had after my 4th m/c was for natural killer cells, that test also came back positive with a very highlevel of the cells. the natural killer cells attack anythin in the womb as they think its a foreign body, which i now have to take steriods when i find out im preggers. when i became preggers (5th time) i took the steriods but sadly m/c again. they know so little about m/c its all just testing and research. every time i had a test i thought right this is it im going to be fine this time, then it happens again. i was scared to try again but im going to beat this and not going to give up. i know i will have to in the end if it dosnt happen as dont know how much more i can take emotionally and physically. please dont give up, we will get what we want in the end. if you need to chat you can alway personal mail me, im on this site every day. yvey x

just wanted to say im sorry to hear your news. sending you a great big hug and loads of love.
if you ever need to talk we are all here
kerry
xxx

Hi Kerry
Thanks for your message. Its just very hard and I suppose its still very fresh from my first m/c
Just wish all the pain and hurting would go away.
Thanks again xx