no you were of use I just wonder if it was me reading too much into things but when even my husband said no that wasnt right how she said that i know cant just be me. itd be different if i thought she was happy when i was pregnant in the first place but i know she wasnt simple fact is she didnt want me to marry my husband didnt want me to have a baby and still doesnt even when I said i was moving she said dont marry him if you dont like it leave him there and come back! so I know the baby thing she doesnt want me to have one in reality. and it is upsetting that in a way deep down she might actually be relieved i lost the baby! I wont let it get to me tho got my own problems!

Sorry this is going to be a long babble of a post but Im so confused and upset. Its been a week since I lost my baby and I left the UK about 3 weeks ago now. I decided not to tell my mum Id lost my baby until I could tell her calmly without getting upset because I know shes a worrier and has high BP so didnt want her stressing out. So I tell her yesterday and the first thing she says is I told you youd lose the baby. Now firstly I dont remember her saying that and if I did I wouldve been so upset before I left how can she say something like that? is it as bad as Im making it out to be? My hubby said it was quite a mean thing to say couldnt she even try and comfort you etc I know my parents werent exactly overjoyed when I told them in the first place they were shouting at us like we were teenagers who gotten knocked up! I think partly it was because we were moving away but I was so upset before I left as was literally the day before we went we left on sour note. And I swear she doesnt want me to have a baby fair enough a bad ectopic and a miscarriage wasnt great for first pregnancies but even so im not a child! The next thing she said was dont rush to get pregnant again which i understand but it wasnt just in the wait til your ready way but in the dont get pregnant ever way! maybe im just a little emotional its still raw more than I think perhaps or am i being reasonable?

no you were of use I just wonder if it was me reading too much into things but when even my husband said no that wasnt right how she said that i know cant just be me. itd be different if i thought she was happy when i was pregnant in the first place but i know she wasnt simple fact is she didnt want me to marry my husband didnt want me to have a baby and still doesnt even when I said i was moving she said dont marry him if you dont like it leave him there and come back! so I know the baby thing she doesnt want me to have one in reality. and it is upsetting that in a way deep down she might actually be relieved i lost the baby! I wont let it get to me tho got my own problems!

omg i cant belive it....when i had my eptopic and then my m/c 2 wk ago my mum was there for me she cried with me and was just there for me.but maybe shes just worried as i no my mum was,but she could of done it different....and when she said bout getting pregnant again in her words she might mean give your body time and yourself...im sorry i cant be of any use hun but i hope this helps
linzi