Hi im 24 (25 in 2 weeks) and I was pregnant with my boyfriend of two years and the pregnancy wasn't planned but we were happy about it. I am going through miscarriage as I type this. I was 10 weeks pregnant.

I started spotting two days ago and got an early scan yesterday. They couldn't see a baby so now I am being left to miscarry and if it doesn't happen within a week I have to go to the hospital to have a D&C I think it is called. The midwife is going to call me at the weekend to see how the miscarriage is going.

All I have been doing for the last day is crying.

Does anyone know what I can expect to happen next?

i m/c at 11 weeks last nov. In my case i had a scan which showed no heartbeat and 24 hours later i had my m/c. I then had another scan 3 days later that showed it was complete so i didn't need a D&C.I did bleed for about 10 days after tho which is awful.
It's such a numb awful painful time and my only advice is to acknowledge your feelings, cry whenever you need to and talk, if you can to your boyfriend, friends and family.
I slept a lot and kind of hibernated for about a week cos i couldn't face the world. Although it doesn't feel like it now it will get easier and you will be able to smile and laugh again.
Every m/c is different so don't worry if your body reacts differently. Although it feels like it's let you down, your body does know what it's doing. My doc said it's nothing you did wrong, just maybe a mix up with genes at conception and it was only when your baby reached a particular development stage that it realised that vital info was missing so your body stops things carrying on cos the baby wouldn't have been healthy.
Take care honey and feel free to ask if there's anything you need to know. I found this site a great help and still do.

Rach x x x

Hi,

Im so sorry, you must be so sad.

I am also 25 and have had two miscarriages-both at around 6 weeks so wouldn't be accurate to tell you what will happen as you were later in pregnancy then me.

There's nothing anyone can say to make this better. Cry as much as you need and make sure you have people round you. That helped me but I did cry for weeks after. Then try again and hope for the best. I have seen a nice gynae and he said that 9 times out of ten its pure bad luck. At the moment that won't make it better but soon you'll start to feel more positive.

Thinking of you.

x

hi, it is happen to every 5th woman and in many cases they do not find reason. In many cases the baby has some problem and the body try to "get rid of it". I unfortunately experienced that for 4 times. I have to say the first miscarriagee was terrible, very heavy for my psychic. After all medical check they found some disorders but they told me in general I am healthy. I did not believe it and did some research and foud very good specialist who made me other tests and she found out that I have antifosfolipid syndrom ( simply tick blood) and this is the reason of my miscarriages. Every time I had to go to hospital for uterus revision. I try to concieve now for 1 year...
I believe u are different case and next time u will have a beautiful baby I wish you good luck.

viera

well hun im sorry,i had a m/ nearly 3 wks ag,
you will loose some clots like a red colour then i lost like a oval shaped thing,mine was clear with like a thing in the middle,(my baby) after that youll still loose clots and thats it...its not as bad i thought it would be worse,ive sort of got my haed round it i have my good and bad days.....if you need me pm me
linzi

So sorry to her your news hun. It's so unfair and the waiting is as bad as the actual event, but there are so many of us here who know exactly how you are feeling so I hope it's of some comfort to you.

I m/c at the beginning of Jan, at around 9 weeks gone, but I'd been spotting regularly and going for scans since 6 weeks and they never saw more than the pregnancy sac (no yolk sac or heartbeat etc) so I think it all stopped about 5 weeks but took a month or so to pass. Leading up to the actual m/c I just found the bleeding got heavier, eventually was like a period with period type pains, then the actual m/c happened when I got up to go to the loo in the night, took about 45 mins and was mostly clots then a little grey ball. It was devastating and I was scared, but the pain (physical) eased almost straight away after passing the sac. I was lucky as everything seemed to come away on it's own, but from what I know of D&C's they are nothing to fear and it's the idea more than anything which is upsetting, I don't think they are painful as such.

Whatever outcome happens for you, be strong, and know that it will take time but you will make it through and we'll all be here to help you.

N xx

Im sorry to hear this...i had a miscarriage 8wks ago n im nw 6-7wks pregnant again! I had a complete miscarriage naturally so didnt need a D&C. I lost quite a few blood clots and had painful cramps in my tummy and lower back. I was only 5.5wks though so the two will probably be very different. Sorry im not much help but i know how you are feeling. It feels like the emotional pain is never going to go away, but it does. It doesnt go on forever and after a while things do go bck to normal. I hope this helps. if you need a chat message me.
Lots of Hugz xxxx

hi, just wonderd if you could give me some advice! I am 6 weeks and 3days pregnant but last year in may i had a miscarriage.i am really worried that the same is going to happen again.When i went to the toilet today there was really light pink on the tissue but i was constipated and my friend told me you can bleed if your constiptated or something like that.After that when i went toilet there is nothing on the tissue but im worrying myself to death.You got any advice to put my mind at ease. xx

hope you won't mind me replying, know how worrying it is when you've had m/c before and you see any kind of bleeding, scary as hell! Your friend's right, it could be cos you're constipated, specially if you've been straining to go (sorry TMI!) but it could also be a bit of implantation bleeding from the pregnancy. This is actually a good sign as it means bubs is bedding into your womb and this can cause a little bleeding. It's good that the blood is pink rather than bright red and that there's only a little when you wiped as well. Think it's totally natural to worry, I'm checking my knickers every 5 mins (had 3 m/c's and am about 8 weeks pregnant again now) and panicking at every little pain but what you've described isn't setting off any alarm bells from what I know so try not to get yourself in too much of a state. Know how hard it is but think you just have to keep an eye on things and try and stay calm for now, if you get any increased bleeding and/or pain just get yourself straight to A&E and get it checked, preferably during the daytime so they have the facilities available to scan you and hopefully put your mind at rest. Think too many of us don't like to make a fuss but that's what hospitals are there for and if it stops you worrying it's gotta be worth it. Really don't think it sounds like too much to worry about for now though and hopefully you won't see anything else and all will be well. Got my fingers crossed for you, let me know how things go and here's to happy healthy pregnancies for us both this time.

Lotsa love,
Clare xxx