I am in the process of losing my baby. I was 8 weeks pregnant, though an ultrasound showed that the baby stopped growing at about 6 and a half. I've begun losing it, and am bleeding heavily and am having incredibly painful cramps. Can some of you who have been through this tell me what to expect? How long does it take to finish, and how long does the pain last? I imagine the pain is magnified by the emotional pain, but either way this is very difficult...

i m/c last nov at about 11 weeks altho i think the baby had prob died a few weeks earlier. The build up to it was about 2 days, gradually getting heavier and on the day i had cramps too that got quite bad and then i lost it quite quickly on the toilet. That didn't actually hurt and the cramps stopped. I then felt physically better and relieved in a way as i had been quite frightened as didn't know what to expect. I bled for about 10 days in all.
It has been the hardest time of my life and although i still have some bad days things are much better. I talked to family, friends and partner after and cried when i felt like (a lot) but didn't want to hold it in. I had 2 weeks off work and hid away a bit during this time but did actually feel better when i went back to work. Those that knew were very supportive.
It won't be easy but it will get better. Please pm any time and just to say the support i've had from this site was just the best.

Thinking of you x x x

sorry for your loss honey, i m/c 5 weeks ago thought i was 10 weeks baby meassured 8 no heart beat. by the sounds of it every m/c is different i dont think i bled that much, and the pain was nothin to really uncomfortable to excruitiating for like 5 mins then i passed baby and it got easier i prob bled for about a week. from start to finish. the emotional side of it tho is another ball game it def gets easier although im sure you will never forget, i still have real bad days, and as time goes on scan dates pass i think i coped with that i can carry on copin. just if you need to cry then cry no matter how far down the line you are and there is no set time to when you should be back to normal let your body recover slowly. pm any time ive found this forum a life saver xx

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. You've definitely come to the right place for support and answers though, this site has been a godsend to me over the last few months.

Like you, I miscarried at 8/9 weeks at the beginning of January, but I'd also been for scans which showed barely anything, a pregnancy sac and tiny yolk sac but never a heart beat or visible baby, and things probably stopped around the 5/6 week mark aswell.

Up until the day of the actual miscarriage I'd been spotting on and off, virtually every day for about a month, then from the day of the actual loss I bled for 12 days, and my next period came 3 weeks after m/c (which was heavier and more painful than usual but was a relief strangely as it seemed like things were getting back to normal). I'm also now 15 weeks pregnant again so infact that period counts as the first day of this pregnancy! (I'm only adding this in as I hope it can give you some hope).

The emotional pain is still going on now, but the physical pain passed quickly, within a couple of days infact. I found a hot water bottle helped (if you can bear it in this weather). The main thing is to just take care of yourself and give yourself plenty of time to mend, and know that it's OK if it seems like it's taking a long time to recover.

We're all here if you need us.
Take care,
N xx

Sorry to hear about your loss.
You will prob bleed for about 2 weeks maybe a bit more. Everyone is different so I can only tell you what happened to me. My first m/c I was 8weeks and I bled alot very quickly - if that makes sense. Then it was on and of for 2 weeks. I have since had 2 more m/cs and they were very early on about 6 weeks so bleed heavy for the first week or so then just like a lightperiod for the next week. I had a d and c with the 2nd one so that was a bit differnet.
The emotional pain is the hardest to deal with. We are all hear for you this site is very good for talking about how you feel. And if you wnat to private message me feel free any time. At the moment I am sure it is very hard for you but time is a healer and you won't forget this but the pain will ease in time. Each day will get better. But cry when you need to try not to bottle things up and speak to people when you are low.
There is not much couselling out there for m/c unfortunatly but everyone on here has been a great support to me.
Take care. pm if you need to anytime.
Victoria xx