Hi i lost my baby at 5 weeks (the doctor said 7 weeks but i had a 42 day cycle and worked out i was actually 5 weeks) The thing is its been 4 days now and i actually feel ok. I feel so guilty because i only cried lots on the friday that i had the scan and it showed there was nothing at all left of the baby or anything in my womb, also a pregnancy test came back neg too. I cried for a little bit the day after because i had to tell my 4 year old son that there was no baby in mummy's tummy anymore.
Im just waiting like its going to suddenly hit me and i will be a wreck. I try to just look at its not what i lost but look at what i have now and how lucky i am when some people are still trying. Im confused because if there was nothing left of my baby then why am i still bleeding. I think i would of been worse if i had seen my baby on the scan. I think thats why im ok now. I will always remember this baby and wont ever forget it. I hope im not coming across as heartless.

Im also scaired because we have decided to try again streight away once the bleeding has stopped. The doc said not to listen to anyone and to try again when we feel like trying. She said its nothing to do with your first period its when we feel ready. Was she talking crazy?

I lost my baby at about 6 weeks and it was horrific and i was really upset the time it was happening as it was just not a nice thing, but the strange thing is after the d and c i came home and within 20 mins after the anesthetic wore off i was up about and feeling great i got a little upset but i was so glad it was over that i wasnt nearly as devastated as youd expect to be. the hardest part was telling people who knew but after that i put it to back of my mind and moved on. People react differently you shouldnt feel terrible and youre not heartless, your baby is gone you accepted it and looked to future.
We didnt intentionally wait to try again i couldnt have waited the three months the docs suggest. we didnt try for about 2 weeks after the bleeding stopped only because of the chance of infection id heard and i was so concerned about that. As soon as i felt strong enough we tried again and im now pregnant again 2 months after my miscarriage

I lost my baby at 10 weeks, and I feel guilty for not crying. It's not that I'm not sad, it's more like I don't let myself think about it. My doctor told me I needed to think about it so I could grieve and accept it. Which I think I agree with her. I've been having severe panic attacks and have been kind of emotionless. It helps to see that I'm not the only person and I hope that you do what's best for you. My doctor told me to wait to try again that your body needs time to recover. She told me to wait 3 months. I read that it has something to do with the uterine lining. I hope everything goes wonderful for you.

Hi, sorry its long but i was exactly same as you.

i also recently miscarried at about 9 weeks in Feb. I had an early scan at 8 weeks (cos the doc was paranoid i was having an ectopic) and everything was fine, about 2 days later i started bleeding and i knew that was it.

Straight away i wanted to try again because i just wanted to be pregnant again. The Doc told me to wait at least a month and i did.

I wanted to ignore her but im so glad i waited now. After i had my next proper period i realised why the doc had said to wait, my hormones were back to normal and i felt i could try again without carrying that pregnancy into the next pregnancy.

i also felt guilty because i didnt cry much, only when it was coming away, and felt fine 2 days later. It does upset me but i just dont like crying in front of people. You obviously do have a heart as youve put this entry on here so dont feel bad for not crying loads, you have to be strong for your little boy.

Everybody gets over it differently, If you want to try straight away then go for it, but my advice would be to wait one month.

hope all goes well xxxxxx

i dont no i got told of the hospital to wait after my first period.and hun whwn your first period comes it might hit you.i seen my little baby on the scan and it was te worst thing ever.but it does get easier
linzi xxxxx

Don't feel guilty we all deal with it differently and that can vary day to day week to week. At the moment you have a lot going on in your body so just deal with that. After my first miscarriage I waited until i had my first period to feel that my body was back to 'normal' and then started ttc, we actually got pregnant again that month but i lost that one too. People will give you advice but you should do what feels right for you. You will always remember this baby and what it meant to you and you do that in your own way too. It sounds like you have a good doctor rather than one who would BS you so you are lucky there. Talk to her again if need be.

Good luck, will think of you.
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Take care
Clare x (so many Clare's on here, it's freaky!!)

first off you have nothing to feel guilty about, we all deal with things differently and you don't sound heartless at all, it's good that you're focusing on what you have and not what you've lost. Having said that there may well come a time when it hits you properly and it's important to be prepared for that, miscarriage is a hard thing to come to terms with and we all need to grieve at some point.

It's normal that you're still bleeding even though your scan showed clear, it's different for everyone but can go on for a couple of weeks so try not to worry too much about that. I've had 3 m/c's and found the bleeding kind of stopped and started a bit after the first week or so, I'd just think it was over with and then would start spotting again. Think it confuses our bodies a bit if you know what I mean and it might take a few weeks for everything to settle down properly and your cycle to get back into some kind of routine.

As for trying again your doc is right, when you feel ready is the right time and there's no medical reason to wait if it's what you want. It is scary though and you're bound to have worries and fears, nothing I can say will take those away but the girls on here give fantastic support if there's anything you want to talk through or get off your chest. Like I said it's happened to me 3 times but I'm now 14 weeks pregnant again (never got further than 9 weeks before) and things seem to be going ok this time so miracles can happen!

Whether you decide to wait a while or jump straight back in we'll all be here to support you, do what's right for you and it will all come good in the end. Hope you're doing ok, message anytime if I can help with anything and take care of yourself.

Lotsa love,
Clare xxx