I cant believe it, im scheduled to fly on a ridiculously long 12hr flight tomorrow, then a 4hour coach trip home, or face another long trip from where the airport is back to where i came from, i just went to the bathroom and saw what ive been dreading, bleeding. I cant believe it im crushed and pretty near hysterical, i dont have a clue what to do. My husband keeps telling me calm down, but how can i? What choices do i have either way is a long trip and i could potentially lose my baby along the journey. Im so scared and upset what can i do?

I really feel for you hun. I m/c in Jan at around 9 weeks, and I'd just got off a plane 3 hours before aswell, and it did make me feel scared about what I'd have done if it happened mid flight.

If I remember rightly from your other post you're flying back to the UK aren't you? Is there any way you could get any medical advice (A&E or similar) before you decide whether to board? if they can at least reassure you this isn't the worst case scenario then you might be able to manage the flight with a stash of sanitary towels til you get back, I just fear the not knowing is going to make you so stressed and frightened that that in itself won't be good for you.

I wish I had better words of wisdom for you, and I can well imagine how upset you are, and I really wish you all the best, and even better by the time you read this that the bleeding might even have stopped.
Take care, Love N xxx

i totally agree the not knowing is worse. Good news is bleeding is gone, but now ive convinced myself im having another ectopic. It seems likely i mean it was light spotting and now im here reading about the other symptoms maybe thats going to make me worse, god this is terrible i thought pregnancy was meant to be time of joy. Ive already told OH if this one doesnt work out, 3 lost babies is enough im not trying again, well have to adopt. I cant go through this with every positive test. Thanks for encouragement i know im not the only person in the world whos gone through this.

...about how this is meant to be an enjoyable time etc etc. I'm pregnant again now after that m/c and I've found this so scary and stressful, and it hasn't helped when people who just don't understand say to me I should be enjoying it; like I'm ungrateful! I know it's meant to be enjoyable and I wish it was!!! Once you've had the fear and shock that we have it's hard not be scarred the next time.

Anyway - I'm glad the bleeding has stopped, I hope it stays that way. Are you going to try and get a scan when you get back here? sounds like you need that peace of mind and an EPU should see you no probs.

I also wanted to mention to you - by the time I was 15 weeks with this pregnancy I'd had 5 episodes of pink and bright red bleeding which was terrifying. At the 12 weeks scan they said I had a subchorial haematoma which is like a little pocket of blood. Sometimes it escapes and sometimes it reabsorbs. At my 20 weeks scan it had gone, and touch wood no probs since. I hope that something like this could be the cause of your bleding too.

Again, good luck, let us know how you go and hope you have a good (stress free) trip back.
Love N xxx

PS - sorry for the essay!

I like long replies its ok! oh wow congrats seems things are going good for you, well im home i was counting every hour until i got back and once i touched down i was like ok now i can relax, so far still no bleeding i booked a docs appointment but frankly im not anticipating anything helpful although maybe the bleeding might sway things. Last time the drs were useless, ok i may have been paranoid after 1st preg was ectopic and 2nd time all i wanted was reassurance and doc blatently said theres nothing we can do. I called ectopic helpline and woman said thats nonsense and how could doc say that. Even at EPU they made me feel like i was over reacting i mean what harm could a quick scan do, nurse said just cos i had one didnt mean another was likely even though i read theres 10-15% greater chance. Everyone made me feel like an idiot, and it turned out baby was in womb, but then had m/c so not all good. I hate dealing with these people in honesty everyone i encountered was miserable and offish like excuse me for checking if my babies ok and if this time it will rupture and kill me you know? Ok now IM sorry for rambling this is turning into war and peace never mind an essay!

I've also had some bleeding, it happened once last night and has turned into a brown discharge today. I have posted a message about it on the tryin board.
So, you haven't had any more bleeding since then? I have also lost two babies already and can't imagine having to lose another one, but I'm no longer feeling very positive. In the past, blood has never been a good sign.
Have you seen a doctor yet and are you goin to have an early scan? Please let me know how you get on with everythin x

No i havent had any more since. Well i say bleeding because as soon as i see anything not clear i worried, it was more like brownish discarge (sorry tmi) and it was tiny last time and had it again a few days ago. Im booking my appointment today, i read online if you lost a baby and have bleeding they send you for an early scan but honestly my docs have all been so useless with both my pregnancies i doubt they will. Ill have to go myself. I know people say bleeding in pregnancy is more common than you think but when you have lost 2 with same symptoms its hard not to totally freak out.