hello all
I have been reading all your discussions on becoming pregnant after miscarriage, and was wondering how everyone is getting on, I have just had a missed miscarriage i thought I was 11 weeks + 4 days when I lost a little brown stuff then a small amount of blood then it stopped but I had a funny feeling something wasn't right I went to the early pregnancy clinic where I had a scan which showed the baby with no heatbeat, hadn't got past 7.5 weeks but for some reason my body hadn't told me anything was wrong straight away I started to miscarry on the day I would have been 12 weeks bleeding lasted over 2 weeks and had to go to hospital after the first week to have some removed to slow the bleeding then nearly week later when I was still bleeding found out I had an infection which is why I bled for so long... anyway I have stopped bleeding now after about 18 days and have to wait another 10 days to do a test to make sure negative, but wanting to try again asap but the waiting til after your next period worries me,(should I wait or does it really matter ?) and I was wondering how sucessful everyone I have been reading about has been.
sorry that was a bit long winded wasn ... ??

Hi there
Sorry to hear your news!! I myself have had 2 m/c the first one...my body dealt with itself.The first time I had sex after that m/c I got pregnant first time....which was great!!!
I went on to have 2 successful pregnancys...I now have 2 beautiful wee boys.
A month ago I feel pregnant again and had a misssed miscarrage...ended up getting a d&c. Anyways I been ttc 2 weeks after m/c even before af came. I also have been reading to wait 3 cycles before ttc....but I don't want to wait that long. So I'm gonna keep trying. I think it really depends on each individal on how they feel. When I was in hospital the midwifes were all giving me all different info on when to try again.
Some were saying wait 6 months..another said wait 1 cycle. I really don't think there is a right answer.
Good luck.x

so sorry to hear what you've been through and you be as long winded as you like, I've found it really helps to get my feelings out on here. As for trying again it's a really personal choice but I do think you need to be a bit careful if you've had an infection. Your body will need time to recover and although I totally understand you wanting to try again straight away you may find your feelings change when you've had time to absorb the shock. Doctors advice seems to vary a lot, some will tell you wait one cycle, some say three and some will say it's ok to start straight away but I would say try and wait at least one because of the infection. You may well find your first period is a little strange and it often takes at least one to put things back to normal. I was left with a small amount of tissue still inside after my 2nd m/c and although it didn't cause an infection it took two periods before things were completely back to normal. I thought I wanted to try again straight away but when it came to actually trying I found myself avoiding my OH at the crucial times, didn't even realise I was doing it til afterwards but think my body knew I wasn't really ready and needed a little time to come to terms with what had happened. It's different for everyone and has to be your own decision but your body has been through a lot not to mention your emotions and I think we often underestimate the impact m/c can have on us. Not sure if it helps to know other people's background but I had 3 m/c's, one in Dec 06, one in Feb 07 and then again in July 07, really don't know if falling pregnant again so quickly after the first had any bearing on why I lost the second and know a lot of other women have had completely sucessful pregnancies immediately after an m/c but I didn't feel ready for quite a while after the 3rd and finally fell pregnant again in feb this year. I'm now almost 29 weeks and everything seems to be going well this time, never thought it would happen for me and I'll never forget the babies I lost but it can work out in the end, hope it does for you too. Take care of yourself hun and if there's anything you want to ask or you ever need to talk PM me anytime. Wishing you all the best for the future,

lotsa love,
Clare xxx

with happy sadclare and scottishmum it does vary between doc to doc, hospiat doc told me to wait one cycle then try again, my own doc told me to try again when i was ready if that was b4 the cycle had arrived or after it didnt matter as long as i felt ready. she had a mc so knew what i was going through, gave me her exprince and said she tired b4 the first cycle had arrived and conviced striaght away and had a suessful pregnancy she also told me they say to wait 1 cycle to make it easier to date. nick and i decided to try straight away, we conviced striaght away and i'm now holding my 15 week old daughter in my arms while typing this. my doc gave me a rough due date but i hadnt gave her the wrong length of my cycles (said 28 instead of 30) then she would have been spot on with the dates the hossie gave me, so cant be that hard. take care and im here too if you ever need a chat.

Thank you all for your advice and experiences, I find this forum so helpful and you feel you are not alone.
I think in my situation because I have two children and both pregnancies had no problems it hit me hard when I M/C'd cause I really thought that because I had no problems first two times it would be fine this time but hey how wrong could I be, my youngest is 5 years old and I'm just hoping I will eventually get my little bundle, it was also hard with the children and what do you tell them they both knew I was pregnant perhaps should have kept that to myself but I really did think it would be fine like with them, at first I didn't say anything at all case they stopped asking, I think children do have a sixth sense and know something is wrong, but then I felt guilty that I was keeping it from them, so I explained in the simplest way that "daddy planted a seed in mummies tummy and the seed should have grown into a baby but mummies seed hadn't grown so Daddy would plant another", and surprisigly they both just said "ok" and that was that, but I felt so much better for saying something and it seemed enough information to help them understand why mummies tummy wasn't getting bigger.
anyway thanks again I will let you all know how I get on
Gayle