Salute to our heroes

i lost my third baby on thursday and have had obviously a horrible weekend, but i woke up this morning and realised while im off work my poor husband has to go, he has been my absolute rock, hes held me when i needed held, hes been getting me drinks and bringing my tablets, hes been doing all the dishes and the washing, even put clean bedding on!! After seeing so much heartache together and hes seen so much blood and faced all the paperwork at the hospital as i couldnt do it, hes still by my side, as a man we all know how easy it is for them to get up and walk away, its being done everyday to poor women who have to face this head on and alone, but for the men in our lives who are excellent and dependable and have feelings too (some just have a funny way or showing them), next time ur having a drink alcoholic or a cup of tea, think about them an have a drink for them, our heroes, I love my husband very much, and everybody else who feels their hubbb/partner/boyfriend has been a godsend, leave a comment an show your thinking of them at this hard time too, and remember were all in this together, love to ou all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxx

Hey girlys

just wanted to start this up again, i also want to say about how amazing my BF has been through my 2 mc's.... he has been amazing he has taken it when i have shouted at him and been mean because i want answers he has held me so many times while i have cryed my eyes out and looked after me when i was in pain, when i couldnt bend down he put my socks on for me and rubbed my tummy when it hurt, he also brought me paracetamol and hot water bottles when i couldnt face getting out of bed and he has just been there for me in general listening to me moan i could not have delt with it without him and he still is there for me now. my first mc was only 2 month after we had been going out and he still was there for me and held my hand all the way through. I love him so amazingly muchly xxxxxxxxxxxxx

I thank god every day for my partner

I cudn't have managed these last three wks if it wuzn't for my partner. I will nevr evr forget how good he wuz when I went 2hospital, how fantastic he wuz when I went in th nxt day for my d&c, or how amazing he has been from the minute I came home.
He wuz my absolute rock for those first days when it stil hadn't fully sunk in, and even now he gives me those extra hugs when i look like i need one, and when i returned to work yesterday he txt me just to make sure i wuz copin ok.
I wud never evr have got thru this far if it hadn't bn for him, and i have told him this every day since it happened, sumtimes just by sayin thanku.
I just hope we can get thru it to the othr side and start to try again in a couple of months. I love him so much, and this experience, as awful and as raw as it stil feels to me, just seems to have brought us so much closer together, which is the one positive thing which came from our miscarriage.

I pray we all go on to have full healthy pregnancies, my heart is with you all, good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxx

I dont know what i would have done without him...

I love my husband so much....

We lost our little girl at 20 weeks 4 days only 9 days ago and I dont know where I would have been without him. I have also had a miscarriage at 11 weeks last June. He was so supportive both times, he did everything around the house and every time he looks at me I can tell he checks to see if I am ok. I just hope I will be able to repay him, by giving him a beautifull son or daughter or both some time in the future.

Baby I love you so much, you are my world

tania

Absolutely agree

I had 2m/c in the last 18 months.
I couldn't have gone through it without my DH. He has been a reall godsend. Initially he found it difficult to know how to support me, but we worked through it and I am truly grateful for his support.

He says it didn't affect him so much but I think he just doesn't want to admit it, as he wants to stay strong for me.

We have 20wk scan tomorrow for PG#3 and i'm thinking positive that everything is OK and healthy as we've never made it this far before. He's the one being cautious and wants to wait and see. So think it affected him more than he realises.

So three cheers for all the partners out there who have listened, hugged, consoled and generally provided the much needed support to us when they are feeling sad themselves.

Sarah
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My oh has been wonderful

even now 4 months on, he still checks that i am doing ok. Everyone else seems to have forgotten about it or never mentions it.
I am dreading my due date & my oh knows i will need him even more that day & i dont have to say a word.

I love him so much it hurts.

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Come on girls!!

really dissapointed that there was only 3 responses, of all the girls on this site, surely your men/partners must of been some use, i know some girls go through this alone an without a partner but surely there must be a friend mam, dog!!! who needs a mention come on lets broaden our outlook and give someone else a mention i know its hard an at the time we feel like its only us that goes through it but also being a friend to someone who has miscarried made me realise how lucky we are to have one person who makes all the differnce, come on girls, get ya fingers out!!!!!
I LOVE MY HBBY THROUGH THICK AN THIN HES BEEN AMAZING AND I COULDNT OF DONE IT WITHOUT HIM, AND IM NOT AFRAID TO SAY IT!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

He's been through so much too!

Im truely sorry for your losses, but pleased you have someone there to care for you well, when you need them the most.

On a previous posting i told how i'd miscarried & lost my father-in-law all in a week!!
Obviously my hubby lost his 'baby & father', so he's obviously been through so much too.
We run our own small business & these events had a dramatic impact on the business as we inadvertently spent time away from it throughout our troubles. Also he's had to be supportive for his mum which has also put alot more pressure on him.......& to be totally honest, untill i've sat here writing this i realise i may not have thought about just how much he has actually had to go through too!!

I love him dearly & though he's what id call a typical 'northerner' who finds it difficult to express his emotions at the best of times, he has actually been great. The shoulder i need everytime i cry & puttting up with the mood swings whenever they appear!! He doesn't have the same emotional response as me, but understands that i react differently & though he's been working extremely hard, long hours & days with little time off, he does try to help me however he can when i need him to.

He's managed to keep on top of the business, be there for his mum, be supportive to me & deal with his own feelings all at the same time. He's been amazing really & after telling you all of this, i realise that i now need to let 'him' know too that this is how i feel about him!!

This site has done wonders for me in such a short time.
Thankyou all for listening

My hero .......my rock

This is SO true...My husband has been an absolute star throughout our missed miscarriage, he has been there every step of the way putting his own feelings and needs to one side. He has spoken to people on my behalf when i have not been able to say one word through the tears...I just wanted to say that i didnt think it was possible to love him more than i did... but now i know it is... My Hero......my rock... Love you more than life xxx

Fantastic support

I agree with you, all through this frightening experience, I have admired the way in which my husband has been a tower of strength. He has not only been as devastated as me, but supported me, looked after our little boy completely for a week, cooked the tea, done the dishes, bathed and put little one to bed, taken him out when I needed some space, been completely understanding and considerate all of the time, in fact the one positive thing to come out of this is that we are so much closer as a couple and feel that we can work through this together.
I don't know how I would have managed to cope with this without him around and I want to thank him from the bottom of my heart - Love you always xxxx

God made us and paired us

my husband has been my total rock and sorted out all the funeral arrangements and flowers and goes to visit tilley every night after a 10 hour shift at work ,he is the most thoughtful sensitive man i have ever had the pleasure to know and am blessed to have such a wonderful man in my life (now i know why i married him when i was 17 lol) this was his much wanted first daughter after having 3 beautiful boys tom 10, james 8 and joseph 6 and i know his heart is in tatters and if there was anything i could do to make him smile again then i would sell all my worldly possessions just to know what it is love you with all my heart jez and look forward to the day we laugh and smile together once again xxxxxxxxx